Is this thing on?

Sorry about neglecting the blog and sugar world in general. Things with Mr Eccentric are the same, he's still in Singapore, taking care of business to be able to finally come meet me and then leave with me to begin a new adventure in business and life. This is frustrating beyond words, just skyping, texting, talking on the phone. We think alike and at the same time, he's the most romantic man I have ever met (yeah I know, not really met..), he's completely in love with me and is planning to propose to me when we meet. I dare not to tease him anymore, one day I said jokingly I'm saving myself for marriage and then he goes on how this is the first time ever he is considering that option. Mmmmmwhatt?

Keep your fingers crossed! I might have found true love sugar instead of NSA sugar, cannot imagine anything sweeter...

Oh why, thank you, ma'am

I'm all smiles. Yes The day has FINALLY arrived, I am in an arrangement! Daaamn that took long, though... Mr Gold is an amazing man, so attentive, so open and so easy to be with. The conversation just flows... Our date last night started with him handing out my allowance for November in full, a nice dinner and then more wine and flirting at his place. And the hottest, wettest make out session for a while =D Boy is he good with his tongue! I should give him an allowance for making me come and come and come and... oooh.

He travels quite a bit for pleasure, so I suspect there will be some of it in store for me, too. And as a good SD, he won't allow me to pay for anything when we are together, that's something he said already on our first date. Next date is in two weeks and as agreed, either he will give me shopping money or we go shopping together. Hmmm what do I really need... a new computer maybe?

Even if all this (and Mr Eccentric, grrrrrr him) goes nice and smooth, a girl must be vigilant. I still have 4-5 potentials with whom I'm scheduling first dates. They are all out of towners, so it takes a bit of planning. I seem to have found the right combination of sugar and money for the local potentials. Or is it the pheromones that are wafting into the air because of Mr E...?

What ever the reason, I have gotten completely different response to my search. Will keep you updated how it all developes. But right now I'm just super happy about Mr Gold! Have a wonderful weekend, my fellow sugars!

Oh do I dare to dream

I had the first really, really good, efficient and pleasant sugar date on Monday. I met a local potential SD who has had an arrangement before and what a wonderfully easy experience for me it was! He knew exactly what to say and reply to my questions, he made the allowance talk as comfortable for me as possible and he didn't make anything feel dirty or unpleasant. Talking about the money part was a breeze as opposed to the wannabe potentials I have met before. No need to explain it all from the beginning, wheww. And he loved me and I really liked him. And we're meeting again on Friday night and I'm taking my toothbrush along. Let's call him MrGold as he's blond. More to come, hopefully!

MrEccentric is still in the picture, he makes me so horny by just talking shit. Who knows what comes out of this, but I am going to see it through. Just because... I feel like flying.. floating on the sea with no horizon on sight... wanting to do cartwheels... I want to take the ends of a circle, step in and close it.

Bluer than velvet was the night, Softer than satin was the light

MrAccent came to see me, we had a wonderful dinner at one of the best restaurants in town, kissed a bit in his nice boutique hotel room and then I left. No sugar, no sex. And then he disappeared. Whatevs.

Then there is this man I probably haven't mentioned in the blog before, let's call him MrEccentric for now. We talked for quite a bit last summer and then I decided to let him go, but now he's back. He's in south of France on his yact at the moment and is feeling the itch to move on, it's getting cold in Europe. We haven't talked for 3 months but everything is the same. The chemistry, the feeling of knowing each other since the beginning of time, talking in metaphors, getting restless and talking of nothing on the phone for hours. His voice gets me wet.. haven't masturbated this much since.. never?

This whole thing reminds me of how I met my ex-boyfriend. We met online and for a reason just chatted online for maybe two months. The chemistry was amazing, it was like a drug. When we finally met, it was love at first sight, fireworks and abandonment of everything else. It lasted for 4 years until we both were burnt out on the love and passion. The sex was incredible till the last night we spent together, us both crying through sweaty panting climax as we knew it was the last one together.

So, I don't now.. meeting MrEccentric could be a disaster leaving me burnt, or it could be a mind blowing, life changing chance of... everything I have ever wanted. Isn't it funny how you become hesitant when you are offered the world and adventures you have always dreamt of?

PS Oh well, gotta confess, me and the ex met a couple of times after the break up just for sex...

Creatures of the night

I live my everyday life as if nothing ever happens and feel like an outsider among the people I know. I meet men for lunch/coffee/drinks after work, and they stare at me like wolves, perhaps I just imagine the saliva dripping from their mouths. The engineers, CEOs, CFOs, business owners, sales men. I'm charming, smiling and efficient, ask about their hopes and say out loud my wishes in euros looking them straight in the eye. And then for once you feel the butterflies and eyes lock for the split second and it feels all right again.

Once upon a time...

...I was surfing bag & shoe porn on the PurseForum and stumbled on a picture of a girl in her early 20's posing in a hotel lobby with a man in his 50's. Photo caption said something like "Me with my daddy at xxx". OK she had her skyhigh Loubies, black Chanel 2.55 and a nice skimpy shiny dress and my first reaction was oh wow, but of course there are SBs on tPF =D

Sentiment of the day

I'm seriously thinking about ordering this necklace.

Mr Accent is coming to meet me on Saturday next week, so I have a week to start feeling like a lady again and not a desperate ho. Thanks to all the potentials I've been talking to lately....

Accomplishments so far = nothing

Ok not really, I have met amazing people (mostly online), fine tuned my goals and wishes and kept my faith. September was grazy and busy, work was hectic and left me little time to spend time with real life friends. Some evenings were spent emailing/skyping/talking on the phone with potentials...

Right now I'm talking with 4 serious contenders (Mr Accent and Mr French still among them) and with 3 others emailing is still at an early stage. I have learned some patience, these guys just can't fly off on a short notice and luckily they are gentlemen and don't demand me traveling to meet them. I'd love that though, and probably will do that with couple of them, otherwise we'll never meet.

Mr Accent is already excited about house hunting with me. He's looking for a new house in London, preferably in Mayfair, so yes, sir, I'm excited as well. We talk on the phone several times a week plus some emails, we have so much in common... The plan is for him to come see me next weekend, keep your fingers crossed! Mr French gives me a nagging feeling something is amiss, so I won't put much effort on him. Mr Travel whom I mentioned in an earlier post, emails/texts me maybe once a week, at the moment he's in Asia. I have no idea does he travel for business or purely for fun, all he does is fun.. I'm tempted to scream oh come on, lets meet already for the first time and we'll finally see are we a match, a little detour to see me is not a problem for you! But I'll refrain myself, it will happen if it's meant to be.And then there is Mr Newbie, also from London. He contacted me on Facebook with his official profile, so he was easy to check out and google. He has never been a SD, but hopes to find a mature mistress to spoil and spend time enjoying concerts, theatre, fine dining and walks in the park (haha not really, but he really wants to spend quality time with his mistress). My location is not a problem and he's willing to compensate my time in a very generous way. Hopefully we'll talk more next week, and for him I'll probably fly to London in two weeks.

Oops what a long post and nothing really exciting in it. I'm hoping your sugar life is more fulfilling than mine. Now I'm off to enjoy the glorious autumn day!

From here to there and everywhere

The first real sugar date left me cold, but no worries. Signing in on a new SD site opened new doors for me. Ok they're British and they're looking for a girlfriend/wife, but I'm not getting any younger either. I sent about 6 messages to millionaires in London (income £+500K and net worth £+1M) and have been actively emailing with 3. Just got off the phone with one of them and waiting for another to call me.

Mr Accent was genuinely interested in me (oh how many times have I said that before..), we talked about life in general, travelling, our jobs and normal everyday stuff. We'll keep in touch and schedule a date for next week. In one of my emails I asked him what does he think of the fact that if we hit it off, I will become his live-in girlfriend and will not continue working. He answered that's exactly what he's looking for, hooray! I'm so ready for the 3-4 carat engagement ring =DMr French should call later today and with him I'm determined to arrange a date for this weekend, hopefully in London including some shopping. He lives in Regent's Park, loves to travel and enjoy the high life. He's looking for something more serious as well and as a bonus could teach me proper French. I can already envision the orange Hermès boxes coming my way....

The chase is addicting... I'm tempted to surf the sites again this evening, but I try not to... Anyone else have symptoms of a sugar search addiction?

Eeny meeny miny mo

The date with Mr Germany went ok. Nothing spectacular, he wanted to walk from his hotel to the restaurant. Ok nice, except the hotel was not in the city center. I made him take the subway. Should've known this is not going to be good. I showed him some sights on the way and during dinner we politely talked about travelling and the cities we have visited so far. Definitely no sparks flying and he got drunk after having half a bottle of wine? Seriously =D I'm not a drunk, but I do like my quality wine. And after dinner, more walking. Thank gawd I wasn't wearing my highest heels! I started to feel a bit exasperated and the final blow was him telling me about these great hotels deals he always gets on Priceline. Thank you, good night & take care.

After I got home a potential SD from London (income £+1M, net worth £+1M) called and things started to look more positive once again. He travels constantly and sometimes needs a lovely companion to share the experiences and some witty conversation. In his first email he had asked what would I want to do and I gave him 3 of my most exotic wishes for travel. Oh well, he has done them all =D Now he's checking the best place in Europe for us to meet and he himself noted that he will get me my own hotel room, first date is just for us to get know each other. Let's hope he delivers!

There are couple of other potentials as well, but I'll get back to them if need be, they need some gentle coaxing about the allowance in general... yeah, they're British ;D

Wow, he was quick...

I had e-mailed with this American man in Germany for couple of days, just exchanging the preliminary info, hobbies, likes etc. Then he suddenly says this is all so nice to chat online, but I would like to talk to you in person. Ok I think we'll talk on the phone later, but then the next day I have a message: "I'd like to take you to dinner next weekend, I'll be in your city on Friday". Ummmm okay. So now I have a sugar date on Saturday!

It's all nice and everything, I would learn a thing or two from him, but I'm not 100 % sure he's a SD for me. He has some not so normal characteristics, but seems really normal and easy to get along with nonetheless. I'm a bit worried I'm too materialistic and airhead for him =D Plus he's more of a travel daddy and I really would prefer an allowance daddy. But I'll keep an open mind, I would LOOOOVE to be able to travel all over the Europe, and that's his plan, to see and explore all the cities in Europe.

So, on Saturday we'll see if we have any chemistry! And if nothing else, he can tick off one city from his list.

Drama free?

The men want drama free fun. I don't know but I have a feeling that fun is all they're gonna get with some girls... Ok it's so easy to exaggerate online as nobody else knows the truth, but some of the recent incidents in the sugarworld has left me a bit miffed. I may be too old for this shit. I may be too serious or think too much.

But who cares, I still believe there is someone for me, too. Someone is going to appreciate having me as their oasis in the storm, relieved to have genuinely drama free companionship.

Stay safe.

Ripe tomatoes are the juiciest

Loved Eden's comment on my last blog: I am not a sugar baby, I am a novice courtesan. Reading her comment it dawned on me, that's something I have thrived for all along. To be a trusted and respected mistress of an affluent and powerful man. For me that's pretty much the same as a sugar baby, just with more life experience under my belt. And the outcome is just the same, compensation for the time and affection of a lady.

Hopefully the gentleman I'm meeting on Wednesday will qualify, then I would have the two regular benefactors all lined up and I could stop searching for a while. MrEnergy sent a lovely thank you note on Sunday night, he's already planning our next meeting. So sweet...

Stretching languorously...

Mmmm what a lovely Sunday. Just got back home from a date with MrEnergy. He is one of those who replied to my latest ad (PPP) and in his message described an arrangement. He's 57, lives some 400 kilometres away, travels extensively and is a true gentleman.

We met for drinks in a bar and when he saw me, his smile told it all, it's a deal. He had a colleague with him, but we made it look like we just met at the bar when MrEnergy was fetching more drinks. Maybe he figured it out, who knows, but he was a charming fellow, too. After a while we went to another bar that was quite empty, so me and MrEnergy started talking about going to another venue that's surely packed, thinking we could just slip out unnoticed in the crowd. Colleague had already set his eyes on some gorgeous brunette, so he just waved his hand to us. Clean getaway =)

We walked to his hotel hand in hand and spent a romantic and passionate night together. He treated me like a queen, everything was for my enjoyment. Well I have nothing against that =) In the morning we said goodbyes and he was sure we'll meet again, "I could not have imagined what would I find answering that ad, you are so charming and this feels so natural and right". I kissed him the last time, winked and put on my sunglasses.

I consider this wad of bills my first sugar. I love living in a greyscale world.

New layout - what do you think?

Blogger has some new exciting layouts to choose from, I'm having tons of fun trying out different colour schemes. What do you think of the new look of my little diary?

Tomato is a tomahto is a tomatho

I have had interesting discussions about my experiment of a SB posing as an escort. Haha yeah, am I clever or what =D I don't know if it is a cultural thing, sugar baby/daddy -concept is quite unknown up here. And still it is exactly what they are looking for. They want the continuity, chemistry, getting to know you better and so on. They want to see once or twice a month for dinners, theatre, art exhibitions and so forth. They want to talk and cuddle, feel wanted. They send me their pictures to make sure I like them. In a way I understand them not wanting to pay in advance, there are not that many millionaires around here. They are just regular guys earning a bit more than the average joe.

Of course most of those who have sent me messages are looking for a fling. I'm still baffled why do these old married men think a woman would want to date them intentionally for nothing? Sure there are plenty of women wanting something on the side (so go to a bar to find those skanks, loser), but I try to use discreet codewords in my ads to make sure they understand I'm not one of those ladies. That's surprisingly difficult as the sites I use have blocked some words like support, upkeep, assistance.

In my reply to these potential clients (does that sound too harsh?), I have outlined quite specifically what I offer and what I expect. I need the chemistry, I'm not a professional, we need to feel the spark and the meetings must be as natural as with a regular girlfriend. I'm not coming to meet someone in a hotel room for an hour, I'm too classy for that, and I wish it to become long term relationship. And the money, I'm asking waaaaay more than an escort. If I can find 2-3 charming gentleman, who want to meet me once a month, I would make almost the same as a SB whose daddy might want to hook up every week. Not a bad situation in my opinion. Maybe a bit transactional, but I sure as hell am not selling myself short, do the math.

And the pot in Amsterdam. When I brought up the sugar, he got all surprised I had a business plan on mind, he thought covering the weekend trips was it. Umm, we met on SDFM.com, mister. I replied very politely reminding him about that fact and that he would make some regular woman from match.com very very happy. His answer? "Why are you so rude? I can get hookers easier than this, I'm not desperate, you will die a very bitter woman.". Oh well, all the best to you, too =D

thank you Butterfly for the title of this post =)

New beginnings

It's been a while... Since the last post I've actively searched for sugar, enjoyed the summer, gotten tired of the search, sworn to quit sugarworld, got back on track, got a new local SB-friend, worked my ass out in the gym, and so on. There has been some nice potentials, but I don't know... Not gonna bore you with those sad stories =) Then I decided to try another way of approaching the locals. Yes, the notorious pay per play.

Someone on SA-blog just said that the British guys really don't grasp the idea of regular sugar and the same thing is a problem here, or at least I'm not succeeding. So why not make it sound like PPP, but make it sugar. I did a research on an escort site to check out their rates and then put up an ad on a local site in the lines of "do you visit the town regularly for business, why not get a girlfriend to spend some quality time with to make the trips more pleasurable with dinners, theatre and so on". And lo and behold, I have gotten tons of answers and they all want an ongoing relationship that can only be described as an arrangement! Tadaa, you can't change the players, so tweak your strategy to attract the target group, silly me for not doing that before.

So far there are no dates set, just couple of promising potentials that are very interested. I will definitely keep you posted how this pans out. But now I'm off to e-mail a potential SD in Amsterdam =) weekends in the South of France and Spain, oooh yes, please...

Still alive and kicking with hints of sugar in the air

Well, not exactly kicking, but feeling optimistic (have I said that many times already and nothing ever materializes?). Oh well, it's summer, it's two weeks until my summer holiday (4 weeks of absolutely no plans), I got a big raise at work and I have 4 potentials lined up.

Met a 60 year old consultant last night for drinks. He's very charming and polite, but the question of sugar is still out in the open. He wants us to get to know each other better first (yeah right) and when we are sure this would be a long term affair, then maybe we can go shopping together. I'm afraid he thinks just buying me dinners and cooking for me at my place equals as sugar, so I might have to *next* him. Too bad as he really was fun to be with and he could be my mentor as well, as he works in a field that I'm involved. I'll probably have dinner with him the following week to have a serious talk.

Then there's this 36 year old businessman, who loves older women and has some sexual preferences that his wife won't tolerate. And it's nothing more than coming on my face (I actually like it), where do these women come from? We're meeting next week as he doesn't live in my city. That's a good thing as then we can meet at his hotel and not at my place. That's one thing I don't like about the local guys, they think it's a given that I host them and I'm a bit uncomfortable with that...

Tomorrow I'm meeting a CEO of a family owned company with net revenue close to 150 million euros (that's quite ok by local standards). He's looking for a wife and he sure as hell can afford one staying at home, as he actually owns the whole company! Yes, he's a grand-grandson of the founder.

And then the best one, a hottie 50something in Paris. I'm probably jinxing the whole thing, but I MIGHT be going to Paris tomorrow and he understands completely that I'm not having sex with him and want my own pre-paid hotel room. Oh the dream, again. He could teach me French, I would get to explore the city with a local guide and the allowance... 3000 euros + generous shopping for meetings twice a month. I'm just hoping he's as charming as he sounds on the phone and doesn't poof =) Keep your fingers crossed, please!

Oh yes and I have found the joy of sugar hunting IRL! Earlier this week I went out with a friend to this local bar very well known as the hunting place for the older folks ;) And oh boy was there sugar all over! Older foreign men in sharp suits! So we're going back next week and with sharpened nails. Beware the sugar starved lady! =D

Gardening and a fast food empire? Yes, please...

Just got home from a quick coffee date with the local potental, who is looking for a wife. Let's call him PastaPot, as I'm pretty sure I'll have more to tell about him in the future. He's 40something with a small pot belly and he owns one the largest fast food chains in my country. He doesn't travel that much to need a companion, he's not working 24/7 anymore and when I asked what duties would I have as his wife, he said "oh well, it would be nice to have someone to take long walks with, go to the gym, travel occasionally to somewhere warm and to take care of the large garden that is quite neglected now". Okay, that sounds reasonable =D

I felt very relaxed with him and he laughed at my jokes (always a good sign). We talked like old pals and even started planning how his company could use Facebook in marketing, love impressing the guys with my ideas. And we are meeting for dinner next week. I'm keeping my fingers crossed!

Oh for crying out loud

All I can do is laugh, really. 2500pot got the boot, he has completely misunderstood all my mails and phone conversations about the allowance I'm looking for. He actually thought I would travel back and forth to Paris to see him EVERY weekend just because he would rent the apartment there and pay for my flights. Ummmm, yes, you read it right, just the flights basically. No compensation for my time, gifts etc. My English is NOT that bad, buddy, and you're not that attractive to get my attention for nothing. *NEXT*

The local "jackpot" wanted to meet for champagne & strawberries in a hotel room. Ummmmm, yeah right. After my polite e-mail that I'm not meeting anyone in a hotel room for the first time, but we may still meet somewhere public: poof. What is it with thee guys??? I'm a goddamn honest, sincere, beautiful and intelligent, and they treat me like a whore? Aaargh. I'm off to down a glass a champagne by myself, thank you very much!

Have a better Friday everyone! =)

Local potentials & European negotiations

Work and other real life activities have taken most of my time, but I'm still searching for the one SD. 2500pot wants me to relocate to Paris, otherwise no allowance, just the living and traveling expences paid (he'd rent an apartment for us in Paris and would pay for my apartment in my home town, as well). I could do that, traveling between Paris and home, I would actually LOVE to be able to stay in Paris regularly, but IDK. The discussion with him has gotten a bit tedious, a little too much transactional for my taste. He has also already said "no more other boyfriends", ummm, wtf, a bit too early for that kind of comments? I'll probably let him poof in peace... SurprisePot has disappeared again after his Chinese trip, but I'm still hoping he might resurface as he warned work would be very hectic for the rest of May. Couple of London potentials have come and gone, not hoping anything from there...

And then there are two local potentials. The other one is most likely looking for a wife, so I need to thread lightly with him. If he's a gem, why not, but so far I don't have enough info on him to determine that. And then the jackpot, if we have the chemistry.

We exchanged e-mails in January and then he disappeared, only to come back last week. "Lost your e-mail address", yeah right, but I'll give him the benefit of a doubt. He's a businessman in his 50's, looking for a distraction for his dull everyday life, a travel companion to share experiences, and is willing to support me as a lady should be supported. No talk about euros yet, I'll save that for the first date. He wants to take care of my expences and to compensate for my time in a way that will keep me motivated, plus naturally all the champagne. Gotta love that subtle way of defining an arrangement. If our schedules permit, we'll meet on Friday for... ta-daa, some champagne.

Will keep you posted and hoping to get some real sugar stories to share soon =) I've been too lazy to comment on anyones blogs, but I do read them religiously. Luv'ya all!

It's summer!

I have found out the French guys perversions and I'm ok with them. Let's just say that we share similar interests. I'll call him 2500pot from now on, as he would give me 2500 euros on top of all my living expences, bills and traveling to him in Paris. "Just for you to save", he said, and I would be very happy with the total allowance. We were supposed to meet this weekend, but due to the little bit too hasty timetable we cancelled that. We've talked on the phone and exchanged more e-mails, we'll see where this leads. Can't wait to get to Paris and meet Sandie, too =)

Earlier this week I got a very nice surprise. A pot that I had thought had poofed, sent an e-mail apologizing for his disappearance, he had been to China and out there it's almost impossible to surf the Internet freely. He's very keen on talking more with me. He sounds like "a real SD", wanting to proceed with my pace to make me comfortable, he would come to see me for the first date etc. He's married of course, but refreshingly the arrangement wouldn't be a secret. "We have no secrets, she will be informed, not involved". Sneaking around extra carefully is a hassle and strains so much of ones energy, so they have beautifully honest approach that I appreciate. He travels constantly and we'll talk more next week, when he'll be back to the civilized world.

And now I'm off to do some shopping with my friend! I'm her personal shopper with my keen eye on colour and understanding her style. Have a wonderful weekend everyone!

Banker businessman millions billions gifts first class oh finally give me some of that

Banker from London poofed. What a surprise, but truth to be told, I'm quite disappointed as he seemed to be so nice, sincere and just my type. Oh well, live and learn. But if he gets back to me, I will be very happy about it as I already named him HermèsSD, wonder why ;D

Right now I'm talking with a French businessman about going to Paris for the weekend. He's married (quelle surprise), hopes to have me on call 24/7 just for him and offers a verrrry nice allowance, actually 1000 euros more than what I'd be moderately happy with. I love that, because I would be able to quit my day job that I HATE. All I have to do is to find out his secret perversions and intolerable habits, hah. Of course I'm not leaving without the regular safety precautions (plane tickets and hotel room paid for and confirmed, plus some spending money). Once again all I can say is let's see =)

What are your "basic demands" for a potential SD to make you feel safe enough to fly out to see him?

I should remember to take care of ME

I shouldn't be shopping, really, but yesterday I found myself trying on couple of dresses again. And oh my what lights they had in the fitting room. My derriere looked huge and dimpled =0 I need a full body exfoliation and moisturizing anti-age treatment! And a personal trainer to move my lazy ass!

One of the less important things I want to get done some day is Lasik or something similar to correct my vision. After that of course I need to have something done about the bags under my eyes, so little more laser *zap zap says laser*. And there are some fine wrinkles on my neck *zap zap*. I've never understood how some women cut themselves into unrecognizable barbies (think Heidi whatshername), but oh boy have I changed my mind about the less evasive treatments as the years go by. All that sunbathing when younger is now showing the effects...

Oh well. HermesSD-pot (the banker form London) is still coming this way and another interesting potential contacted me on SA.com. Happy times for this wannabe-SB =)

Slowly getting there... maybe

Rejection has become easy. Rejecting has become easy. I'm not letting any of that shadow the journey, even if it is really boring and tedious every now and then. I'm not going to let anything drag me down or force me to settle. I know what I have to give to my future SD.

Right now I'm waiting for one new potential to get back to me about a date in my home town. I'm keeping my fingers crossed, as he feels so right. He's a 50something banker from London. We have similar values, we share the same interests, his wishes for an arrangement are similar to mine, we can talk openly and are both a bit surprised about all of it. Let's hope he doesn't get cold feet. I already bought a new peacock green silk dress for the date =D

Where's the other end of the rainbow...?

The sugar search is on and I have nothing to say? This IS full time job and it's hard to find time for it with a real full time job. I've found two other potentials, but both discussions are going on so slowly and with no definite yes or no from them, frustrating. The first real pot had to go to the Middle East this week, so our possible date got postponed. He still initiates contact, so I'm semi-positive about that. Anyway I'm enjoying my time reading about other SBs adventures and successes, my time will come.

Has your sugar search been successful this week?

A possible date next week is in the works

So the everyday life goes on as usual.. I go to work, meet friends, do some excercise, get back home, browse SA.com and e-mail potentials. I have been e-mailing with that one potential for almost a week now. He lives in another continent, but travels to Europe if not every week, but several times a month anyway, both for business and pleasure.

He is a man with few words, but we have gotten to know each other quite well already. He will be in Europe for the next few weeks and I''ll probably meet him in London or in Amsterdam next week, May 1st. He will of course cover my airfare, hotel and provide a little extra for my time to come to see him, so far so good, and I have made it clear I'm not sleeping with him on the first date. Now it's just a waiting game to see if he'll go through with it or does he poof on the last minute. Wish me luck...

That is not a done deal yet, so I've continued e-mailing potentials on SA.com. I target only pots in locations that are easy for me to fly and/or who travel extensively and are at least 15 years my senior. It's slim pickings, girls... But no worries, there's someone for everyone and if nothing else, I'll learn to be patient =D

One week - one potential SD

I've been e-mailing with one potential for a couple of days now. He's 20 years my senior, makes 500K+ and has residences in several countries. He's looking for a GFE, travel companion, someone classy and lovely to spoil. He gave me his full name, a recent photo and a link to his company's site, so I feel quite confident he is who he claims to be. So far so good. He is not that eloquent with words, but I can live with that, I prefer straight talk to poetic bs.

I've asked a lot of questions, like what would be his idea of an ideal arrangement and what are his thoughts on my wishes that I have clearly stated in my profile. To that his answer was "Not a problem, everything is possible, if we have the chemistry". That could mean anything really, so tonight I need to be more blunt, as even if I would love to shop and dine on his dime when together, I still need the allowance to keep up the everyday life back at home.

And then there's this one obstacle that prevents us meeting in London in the near future, the cursed volcano erupting in Iceland. Does anyone else feel like a dinosaur? =)

And we're on

I've had my profile up on SA.com for a few days now. It's a full time job browsing the profiles =) I've sent about 20 messages and marked about 30 gents as my favourite, my profile has been viewed appr 60 times and I have gotten one message, from a 30 year old making 150K. What a success. I know it will be difficult for me to find someone suitable (damn location), but I'll keep up the search.

On a happier note I went shopping with my friend today. It was a completely spur of the moment thing after our brunch and I wasn't supposed to buy anything, but I found a perfect beige safari style dress, a black sheer flowy knit tunic and a red summer dress, all on sale! Wohoo! Now my legs need some self tanner and I'm ready for spring.

How long did you have to search to find your SD?

I love shopping, but oh boy, am I impossible or what...

My motto is simply: Less is more, but only the best is good enough. With this in mind, I've been able to curb my shopping. It is so much more satisfying to buy fewer things, but things that I really want and have dreamt about.

I used to be almost a hoarder, I loved jumble sales, any sale. I had boxes after boxes of china, knick knacks, shoes, clothes with tags still on, you name it, I had it... But now for the last two years I have systematically gotten rid of most of the old stuff. I've held parties for my friends and they have taken home whatever they wanted. Some of the stuff I've sold on the local site equivalent to Ebay and then the rest got donated to charity. And good riddance, haven't missed any of it! It's an amazingly purifying experience.

I still do love shopping, but it's not compulsive anymore. I'm able to plan ahead and stick to my plan. I'm not buying anything just because it's nice to shop, but the new purchase needs to fit into my plan. Sadly this is not saving me any money, as I buy more expensive things now. How on earth did I become a Queen like this? =D

To turn this confessional into sugar talk, I'm afraid my very exact wishes would make it it impossible for a SD to spoil me with surprise gifts. I love shoes, but I know exactly what shoes I need. I love Hermès, but again, I need only certain items (and in certain colours..). I would love to build a lovely collection of jewellery, but I'm very specific what pieces I would wear. To draw you a picture; the last thing I have bought (apart from groceries, necessary cosmetics and tights etc) is a pair of Tod's flats in February. Yeap, you read it right, February.

In other words, I'm not starting from a scratch on this path of luxuries, I already have beautiful things, so would my quite refined wishlist be too much for a SD? I don't want to come across as too demanding, I just don't need anything extra to clutter my life and closets.

How have you resolved the question about gifts and your wishes with your SD/potential?

Dreams and nightmares

Ok, it's time to find a man. Had a dream last night, a verrry vivid dream about having sex with my a**hole ex-boyfriend. I admit, I haven't had sex for a looooooooooong time. But no more casual sex for me, been there etc., I won't do that anymore. I need to speed up the search for The SD. Luckily my horniness makes me especially charming and flirty ;)

The timing is probably a bit too comical to announce that I set up a new "public" e-mail address, as quite a few gentlemen have sent me friend requests on Facebook and I have ignored them, because I wish to keep FB a playground between SB-colleagues. adrianesugarbaby at gmail dot com

Suggestions for new blog posts and questions are also welcome!

Otherwise still nothing sugary to report, unfortunately...

Beauty is only skin deep

I'm still trapped at home. Went to see my regular doctor in the morning and finally got a diagnosis, proper meds AND sick leave for the rest of the week. Hopefully I'm feeling better soon, so I can take some pictures. And that got me thinking, once again...

What kind of pictures? I'd prefer very simple and stylish portrait like pics, something that represents me as truthfully as possible, meaning I'd be in a dress & heels. The two pics below show a couple of outfits a SD would actually see on a date.But would that be too boring on a profile, not tempting enough? Is showing skin the only thing that attracts men? Would that tempt the wrong kind of men? I am a lady after all.. I've never dressed obviously sexy or revealing, I like to hint and tease, so semi-nude pics could make me uncomfortable (I'm not saying being in my underwear makes me uncomfortable, oh no, that's another story..).

What do you think? Are pics of a SB in sexy lingerie a MUST?

MIA, but soon back on track

I've been down with the flu, and I mean really down. Had to go to the doctor yesterday and got some meds to ease my breathing and cure the cough. It's still going to take a couple of days to fully recover, I'm soooo tired... Between sleeping, coughing, blowing my nose, surfing the net and did I already say sleeping, I've had some clearer moments to think about my sugar situation.

I've decided to ditch the few potentials I have at the moment (including Smoothie), as I'm really not feeling the real desire to date them. And without the chemistry, it would be just like selling myself. No thank you.

Obviously I'm not very photogenic with my runny nose, so taking photos for the profiles on international sites has been postponed. And it doesn't matter, I've decided to whip myself back on track and to lose a couple of kilos during April. I don't know, maybe the general chatter about skinny young girls has gotten into me, but somehow I need to make the combination of my years, figure and style to work for my best and make myself feel like a million bucks. Not to mention it's summer soon, time for the sexy, skimpy dresses! I've also made appointments to hairdresser and teeth whitening.

When I resume my search, I'll be ready and literally glowing!

I have one guy from January's search still texting me every now and then. I have suggested lunches and other meetings, but he never responds. He texted me again yesterday, "How has your Easter been?". Me: "I've been ill for a week, feeling a bit down. A trip to Paris might cheer me up.". His answer: "Let's go then!". Oh well, I'm not crossing my fingers...

Comings and goings

Rejection is inevitable and I'm not going to let that effect my spirits. Onwards with the search!

The chat room is filled with johns. Discussions usually go like this after the initial conversation about our expectations and hopes for an arrangement
Me: So in what ways would you be willing to support your mistress?
Him: Take you to lovely dinners, spend quality time together at my summer house, give you massages etc.
Me: As I said before, I would be happier with some direct financial support, so I'd able to spend the time with you and not worry about my bills.
Him: But that's awkward, I would rather spoil you with gifts.
Me: Ok, thank you and good luck with your search!
Him: wtf?

But every now and then you might meet a potential SD. Met a new one again yesterday and we're meeting on Saturday at an art gallery to see an exhibition and then go to an early dinner after that. He is coming to town especially to meet me and he sounded like a true gentleman, but I don't expect much before I see him in person.

Otherwise nothing sugary to report. I don't remember who said on some other site that new SB-blogs about searching for a SD are popping up quite often. That's true and I love them, but would love to read the other side of the story, too.

Have any of you found good SD-blogs?

EDIT at 5 PM

Ok I was a bad, baaaad kitty today and chased pots online instead of getting some work done.. Two new potentials surfaced and already talked to one of them on the phone. He might be a bit too interested in kinky stuff. I have nothing against it, but he was so keen on it. Must try to talk about it in a way that makes him reveal his real agenda and then I can decide if I want to end things before they've even started.

AND Smoothie texts asking what's up. Ahem dude, YOU were supposed to get back to me during weekend and to set up a date for this week, I thought you had poofed. Hmmm, is he submissive and I need to call the shots? Let's find out ;)

Frustration is in the air

I'm back from the ski resort with aching thighs and bloated body. Oh the amount of food and drink was soooooooo over the top. During the 3 days I skied like 3 hours and the rest of the time was spent in different styles of after ski. With a glass in my hand. April is so going to be no alcohol and only veggies -month. The potential was unable to meet me there, he was too busy with his own guests. And both Smoothie and Hottie have disappeared despite the promised dates this week.

BUT one pot I met yesterday in a chat room called me exactly at noon just as he promised. Good sign! He sounded very nice and we hit it off immediately. We'll meet for lunch on Wednesday, so let's keep fingers crossed! Maybe my frustration is shortlived and this neverending winter ends with some sugar in my direction...

To be or not to be... on SA.com

I don't have a profile on SA.com yet, as I've searched for sugar in my own country. Ok my search has taken only about 2 months, but I'm already getting a bit impatient. I have a couple of serious potentials lined up, but nothing seems to materialize. One of my goals is to see the world, so why not broaden my horizons and set up the profile anyway. There's nothing to lose.

And ta-daa, the questions arise. I feel the need to use completely different alias than this blog persona. I haven't written anything too serious here, but still it would bother me knowing they know, ykwim. And it wouldn't be fun at all if I couldn't write openly about the adventures to you =)

Then on the other hand on a chat forum couple of experienced SD's were quite open about the fact that me being in Europe and a first timer, is a big no no to some SD's. Too much to teach, too far away and what not. I could argue that my age has given me a little bit of perspective and I'm definitely not naive, but the distance cannot be denied. So I better find an European SD, as I could be whisked away anywhere in Europe in 2-3 hours. Not the end of the world really?

So now I'm off to think about a new name, the title to the profile, what kind of a man I'm looking for and what kind of photos to take. Any tips are welcome!

Have you been rejected due to a long distance?

Ooops, I'm alive!

Sorry about the blog silence, been busy with work and then I got myself an iPhone and that's one addictive little toy! I've played with it for two evenings now and my eyes are bleeding...

But one mini-goal is in the making, I uploaded French lesson podcasts on it and now I can start brushing up my French! I studied it at school some decades ago (hah) and decided now it's time to learn it better, as I love Paris and travel there a couple of times year, so isn't it a bit rude not to speak their language. To my own surprise I understood quite well the first podcast! Now I need a French or Canadian SD ;)

Tomorrow I'm off to a ski resort with some business partners. I hate snow, I hate skiing, so the weekend will be filled with after ski activities. Wish me luck! If they make me ski, I'll promise to take a picture =D

What a change of mind

SmoothieSD cancelled our next week's meeting as he's off to an unexpected business trip. But he definitely wants to meet as soon as possible, so we'll set up a new date on Easter week. And this gets more curious every time we talk on the phone. First he insisted on me being exclusive. Then it was ok if I have another SD, but he wants me to be honest and let him know. And now, now he wants me to have another SD, so I could tell him everything we do together. Suits me fine, I love a little bit of dirty talking...

What unusual requests have you encountered?

Adventure on my mind

Yesterday the train back home was full and we decided to stand at the bar for the whole 2 hours journey. And I remembered a dream I hopefully can fulfill one day. A journey on The Orient Express! I have always loved Agatha Christie's novels and how the mysteries more often than not happened on an exotic journey or location. So perhaps a cruise on the Nile, too? Weekend at the luxurious English castle turned into a spa? A girl can dream... Slowly, but surely I'm collecting all the books she's written.

HottieSD e-mailed me after I thought he had poofed, he's still interested but the next meet will happen around Easter. Quite obviously that arrangement could be turned into travelling adventures, as the whole world is his playground and he never has time when he's in town. So I'll be patient.

What are dreaming about right now?

Friday night at home (again)

I love the quiet Friday evenings at home after a tiring week of work. I'll probably fall asleep in a minute when my head hits the pillow, and to ensure that, I just poured myself a glass of wine. But of course a goal oriented sugarbaby surfs the sites for new opportunities even when a bit worn down. And touch dowwnnnnnn again.

Met a 40+ year old music business exec in a chat room and after about 20 minutes, talked on the phone with him. He needs a mistress, someone pretty to take to the concerts or dinners, to cool off with, but someone who does not fall in love with him. He was already late for some function, but we'll talk more tomorrow and meet early next week, if not on Sunday. My voice seems to be my best feature, it's velvety husky and sexy and the guys can't wait to meet me.

Too bad they seem to poof after meeting me, haven't heard a beeb from any of the potentials, crap. Need to think about that and adjust my behaviour...

Do you have any sugar plans for the weekend?

What a liberating feeling

I've been single for some time now and naturally I have been looking for a boyfriend. Not actively and all the time, but just looking around and having a profile on a dating site etc. But as Caramel quite poiqnantly stated, most of the guys you meet are unappreciative losers. Dating leaves you empty and disappointed, is it really like this? Are the all so self-centered? All the men seem to be pigs and you lose perspective. You slowly get cynical...

Now that I'm sugar dating, the whole thing has a completely new meaning! I haven't met this wonderful and interesting men in years! They are genuinely interested in me and my thoughts, they are eager to please and keep me happy. They want me to like them. Of course they want the best bang for their buck, so they treat me good! ...or is that my cynicism talking?

Too bad they are all married, but that leaves me wondering what's wrong with the wives? What's wrong with the men? Of course years of marriage and the same routines dull everything and the feelings get lost, but I would really want the wives to play the singles' game for a little while. They sure as hell would appreciate their husbands after that (and sugar dating would be sooooo slow).

I have a feeling that this experience will teach me a lot about men, about my own conceptions and dating in general, why on earth didn't I think of this earlier... (as I've wondered before)

What have you learned about men by sugar dating?

First date and an arrangement on the making!

SmoothieSD e-mailed yesterday, he had forgotten his cellphone in the office, that's why I couldn't reach him the other day. Our date on Monday went very well (despite his bad breath), we just laughed and talked about the serious stuff. He was so easy to be with and the things we would do together fit my bill exactly. So we talked again on the phone yesterday evening and set up a date for next week to start the arrangement! Wohoo! No more talk about a free testdrive or being exclusive, he just wants me to be honest with him. He thinks I'm the sexiest woman he's met for some time, always a good thing to say to a woman ;) I can't wait, he got me all hot & bothered on the phone, he sure knows how to talk to me... We'll talk more on the weekend, let's hope he doesn't back out then. But I'm optimistic, he seems to be honest and sincere. But oh my, if this goes through, I'M IN AN ARRANGEMENT!

The new potential I met in a chat room on Monday and had lunch with yesterday, was one of those guys that I'm not sure what to think. Let's call him Shortie, as he was shorter than me and I'm 5'5", but he had a BMW convertible and I'm a sucker for convertibles.. He dressed a bit flashy and I myself am quite a subtle dresser, but that probably can be handled with a bit of shopping together. We hit it off nicely and he was genuinely interested about me and what would we do together. He could teach me to golf and take me sailing next summer (too bad I'm afraid of water...). We'll talk more later this week, let's see how my perception of him might change. Oh the car... *sigh*

Would I be too picky and plain silly if I dumped Shortie because of his height or Smoothie because of bad breath, even if everything else checks out?

Oh the never ending needs

With the goal on my mind (the debt, the debt..), I still make wishlists in my mind. I love lists and have countless lists and plans in my notebook, so why not show one of them to you.

The needs of this wannabe SB
- a new bed: the old one is too old and squeeky
- lamps and area rugs to my apartment: I shouldn't ignore my surroundings even if I hate the place
- gym membership: haven't gone to the gym for ages, so now is the time to rekindle this love, maybe I'll get membership to one of the VIP gyms in town
- dentist appointment: I really need to check my teeth and preferably have them whitened
- digital camera to take with me on my numerous trips with my SD ;)
- new mobile phone: I need to be available in style, right
- sunglasses with prescription lenses

Let's talk about the shoes a bit later =)

Smoothie decided to poof after our first meet yesterday. Or who knows did he poof or not, but later when I tried calling at the time we agreed on, his cell phone was off. And now he's sending texts like ";)". One thing that irked me was him insisting a test drive before the arrangement. He would have paid for my time, but that would have been too "escorty" to my liking. And his breath smelled bad, he really should see a dentist...

TallBlond has probably poofed, not a word since my latest message confirming my wish to meet him again, too.

Hottie has disappeared, as well. This disappoints me the most, I really thought we had a connection, but he himself maybe got fed up with his own timetables constantly changing and having to postpone our second meet time after time. If he resurfaces, I'll greet him warmly and with open arms (almost said thighs, but ahem)...

But all is well in this sugar home, I'm on my way to meet a new potential, he's quite handsome, divorced and sounded very charming on the phone. I'll report about that later.

What is the most urgent/needed materialistic thing on your list?

Need, greed & entitlement

Need (all by Merriam-Webster)
1 : necessary duty : obligation
2 a : a lack of something requisite, desirable, or useful
b : a physiological or psychological requirement for the well-being of an organism
3 : a condition requiring supply or relief
4 : lack of the means of subsistence

Greed
: a selfish and excessive desire for more of something (as money) than is needed

Entitlement
1 a : the state or condition of being entitled : right
b : a right to benefits specified especially by law or contract
2 : a government program providing benefits to members of a specified group; also : funds supporting or distributed by such a program
3 : belief that one is deserving of or entitled to certain privileges

I've always loved beautiful things, and for some strange reason, my definition of beautiful is a synonym for expensive. After my break-up couple of years ago, I discovered the joys of travelling. And even though I scour the internet for the cheapest flights and cheap, but habitable hotels, 4 trips a year just is way too much money for my income. Not to mention the shopping done on those trips.

I own my apartment and I hate it for some reason (too small, noisy neighbours, not the best location after all etc), so I desperately want to get rid of my debt accumulated by shopping/travelling to be able to buy and renovate a better place for myself.

I really do not need all the expensive things I have and crave, but it's soooo difficult to go back to "the regular stuff". So me wanting a SD might be just my greediness? Do I feel entitled to the finer things in life? That's another question altogether. I'm just so used to it.

I've never been an overachiever nor career-oriented. I've enjoyed life as it comes and never really worried about the future. Now that I've decided to go this path in life for time being, is it possible I would start to loathe myself for doing this? But then why would I hate myself for being with a man that I care about, even if it's short term? How would I explain my suddenly active social life to my friends and family? Do I really care about social standards, the norms, as long as I'm happy? Am I able not to think about the wives? Only time will tell, really.

Lot of questions, but I guess that's the way this is going to be, at least in the beginning of my sugar life.

What is your motivation for searching sugar relationship?

Oh my SmoothieSD

On Saturday evening I talked on the phone with the potSD, who wasn't interested in e-mailing, but wanted to meet quite soon. Always a good sign. Oh his voice was smooth as velvet, he's 50 and divorced but lives with his child. He's looking for a relaxed companion to travel and spend time with when he's got free time, he loves a stylish woman with some naughtiness hidden under the businesslike outfit and voilà, that's me! He loves lingerie and spoiling his woman with all the pleasures a man can offer. We also had a similar sense of humour and he too thought my voice was verrry sexy. So far so good.

The conversation was very, very pleasant. But I was surprised by my own reaction on his wish for me to be exclusive, if we go on with the arrangement. Why am I so reluctant to do that? Could I really be able to give my time and attention to two different men? Am I looking for an affair or would it feel like that, if we are exclusive? Would I eventually hurt myself by starting to think we are in a serious relationship and not in a arrangement, if I give all my sugar time to him? And reaching my goals would be slower with just one allowance..

Well, we'll see if the the chemistry and spark exist when we meet next week, and I have heard his budget. For the right man and for the right amount, why not...

What is your preference, just one special, whole package SD or two darlings with different kinds of sugar to offer?

New beginnings and boredom at home

I fell ill last night, so now I'm facing a lonely and agonizing weekend at home. And that means only one thing, endless hours of idle surfing on the Internet. I won't post actual photos of myself, but not long ago I found this site www.looklet.com, where you are able to build amazing outfits in front of array of backrounds. So here am I, in a dress and heels with a lovely bag, my usual attire. Try it out, it's addicting! Click on the pic to enlarge it.Then I got two nice surprises this morning when I opened my e-mail. One potSD that has been MIA for two weeks, sent a note asking if I'd still be interested. He poofed after I refused to let him come to my apartment on the first date, but now he himself suggested a lunch next week. I will give him the benefit of a doubt, as he sounds very sincere and he has been in an arrangement before, so no need to explain it from the beginning.

One of the pots that answered my latest ad sent a reply to my message about what kind of an affair I'm looking for, and wants to meet me for lunch next week to talk more. Love it when he doesn't want to chit chat with endless e-mails, but wants to see if we have the chemistry needed. Plus my four figure allowance didn't scare him (didn't write any exact amount, just the ballpark of my wishes).

Just hoping some of these negotiations would actually materialize, lunches are nice, meeting marvelous gentlemen is nice, but I really need my dose of TLC. It's been too long since the last hugs & kisses...

I have an attitude?

I had e-mailed with one busy businessman for a couple of days and suggested lunch on Monday or Tuesday. He then asks what about today.

Me: Today's good, what about This Location (between us, easy to reach for both of us)?
Him: So you don't understand my wish for secrecy? Let me pick you up from your work.
Me: Of course I do and will do anything to ensure it, but I'd rather see at a cafe. I don't feel comfortable getting into a stranger's car.
Him: But I'm not a stranger, come on, let's go for a ride and talk.
Me: I'm sorry but I wish to see you in a public place, and if we cannot do that at all, it kinda baffles me how we could have an arrangement in the first place, you know I'm not an escort.
Him: Well I'm not asking you for a handjob, though that would be nice, of course.
Me: I would appreciate you understanding we're meeting for the first time.
Him: Well come to This Place (near his office, where it would take me an hour to get) then and we'll talk in the parked car.
Me: Maybe we should end this conversation now, as I'm not a callgirl. Have a nice weekend & good luck to your search!
Him: Thanks a lot, what a f**ng attitude is that for a hooker?
Me: *DELETE*

On more positive note, TallBlondSD sent a message and asked about my agenda for next week, he'd been very busy and out of town and apologized for a delayed reply. Yayyy =)

One + one = three

I've been pondering about the amount of time and attention I would be able to give to my future SD. I work fulltime, so that makes it a bit harder to be there for him whenever, where ever he would want me to be. I don't have any qualms on getting days off from work for travelling every now and then, I would be compensated for that, of course.

Then I've been thinking about my goals and how much money I would need to invest. Those calculations say pretty clearly I need two SD's. That would be ok with me, as long as I find two wonderful and not too needy guys. There are so many variables and you never know beforehand. Now I'll try not to think too much, I firmly believe the best things in life just happen. Finding an interesting and committed SD is my first priority and then everything just falls into place.

Or am I being too naive?

Renewed my ad yesterday and got about 10 "good" replies. Let's see how many answers I get for my e-mails explaining the situation better...

Perfect match SD

We all probably have an idea of a perfect SD in our heads. I've had some stupid expectations about men when younger, but nowadays I'm not that black and white anymore. The looks are not that important anymore (even though would make me weak at the knees, sure). Compatibility and similar sense of humour are way more important, but I do admit sometimes it's difficult to see behind the physical side.

I've been on too many dates that are pure agony from the second you meet. No chemistry = no nothing. I admit being a bit shallow and materialistic, so I easily condemn a person because of his style of clothes, haircut, unkempt nails etc. But now with a goal in mind, I've been a lot more open to differences without compromising anything of real importance, of course, and the chemistry is still the most important thing. Just like regular dating, you just know who's right for you.

TallBlondSD hasn't replied to my thank you note. HottieSD just sent a note saying how sorry he is that our second meeting gets postponed time after time. Next week he'll be away somewhere again, but on Friday he might be able to sneak out for drinks. Let's hope so. OlderGentSD and SF SD haven't returned my e-mails, but they're both on business trips, so I'm not going to say they've poofed (yet).

This spring will be sugary, I'm sure of it =)

Lunch with TallBlondSD

Just wow. It was so worth the wait... He was just as amazing and polite as I imagined, if not even more so. Very handsome and distinguised with a charming smile. I was greeted with cheek kisses and got his business card, and the conversation was light and flowing from the beginning. We talked about our hopes and interests, he talked very openly about his businesses. And now I understand what a mentor really means. He fits the bill perfectly. Our expectations for an arrangement were similar, basically he needs a special someone with whom to learn how to relax, talk about everything under the sun and someone to feel passionate about.

Before departing, he expressed his wish to get to know me better and to talk how to proceed, so we'll set up a date for later this week or early next week. He definitely left me shaken and stirred. And waiting for more... Just wow.

Hi, nice to meet you

Welcome to my blog. I'm not going to pretend I'm a big philosopher, I'm just a pretty blond with a twisted sense of humour. One of the reasons for starting to write this diary is that I cannot tell my friends what I'm really up to. They know I'm looking for a BF/husband, and well, I am, sort of ;) So I need a place to gather my thoughts, ask for advice, share my experiences and just simply to say stuff "out loud".

I won't pretend anything, I will say everything just the way I think. I might come off as an arrogant and needy bitch, but so be it. I'm old enough to take responsibility of my own actions and I'm the only one to live with myself and my decisions. I know that in reality I'm gentle, loyal, respectful and kind, hopefully it shines through some of my texts =)

Please let me know what would you want to read more about, know more about me and so on. Comments are always welcome!
AdrianeSB

The lonely weekends and suddenly... two pots!

The thing I must get used to are the lonely weekends. Of course I'll meet my friends and family, but with sugar dating, the weekends are off-limit with married men. On the other hand it's a very good deal, it's my own time and I don't have to worry that some SD would get upset of not being in touch. Ok, I don't even have a SD yet, but still...

So on Saturday I went shopping with a friend and we had a bottle of wine with lunch, naughty us. On Sunday I just lounged in my PJ's, vacuumed and washed the laundry. And went to check a chat room known to attract "this kind of business".

And oh my, what did I find! First I chatted with a gentleman from my hometown, he's 58, single, been divorced for 3 years and wants to meet on the weekends, as on the weekdays he's just too busy. He would love to take me on weekend get-aways (oh Paris, here I come), go to the theatre, see art exhibitions, wine & dine me. And most importantly, spoil me rotten. All the things I love! But as it seems to be a pattern for me, he left on a business trip today and will be back on Saturday next week. He promised to e-mail me next week and we'll set up a date for Sunday. He was a bit hesitant with the allowance, but was very willing to contribute otherwise, so why not let him buy me things I really need and would buy with the allowance anyway. Let's see how this goes.

Then later today I talked with a very sophisticated gentleman living in San Francisco, he visits my hometown once a month and travels all over Europe regularly. He would love to fly me to where ever he's in Europe and occasionally to New York and SF. Oh the dream! And every time he's in town, he stays at the most luxurious hotel in the city, ooh I love it already. We said bye bye's amicably and he definitely wants to meet me when he's in town in April.

Oh how I hope neither one of them poofs on me before we have met!

Poof Poofie Poof and TallBlondSD

I renewed my ad on the site, because the pots are just disappearing as quickly as they come and I can't count on HottieSD, even though how interested he is. But once again only poof-daddies emerge. I send e-mails here and there, everyone's interested, but then not one promise materializes.

One pot originating from Januarys ad on the regular dating site still keeps in contact. He's 51 and a CEO of his own consulting company. He's been super busy with business trips and then he was off to a skiing holiday with his kids. But when he got back in town, he himself contacted me to schedule a lunch. I was very excited as we had gotten to know each other quite well and share a lot of same interests. But then the day before our lunch he cancels!

He's having second thoughts as he "can't promise enough of his time, as he has been living for his work and the kids for so long, he's not sure he is able to commit to me as well as I would deserve". What a wonderful thought, but I'm not looking for a husband! So I write him a soothing e-mail explaining how everything would be on his terms and according to his timetables. I won't need him constantly, I would just love to make him feel happy and wanted and the moments we would share, would be full of stressfree fun and smiles. Happily he saw the light and now we are meeting next week for lunch. Can't wait!

Yayyy, HottieSD delivers!

And just as he promised, we have been e-mailing and texting while he has been abroad. He's very interested in meeting me for finalizing the deal. He was a bit eager to talk about sex, but I kept it very professional (oops not the best expression) and didn't get into any steamy e-mailing. Just explained my preferences and lo and behold, we definitely have one thing in common. He got super excited after that, but hasn't said a word about his budget, but I'll wait for the next meeting for that.

Even though the allowance is one of my motivations for this search, it is not the main motivation. I'm looking for the right chemistry, for the right person to have a meaningful NSA relationship. We have a definitive connection, so I can only hope we come to good terms with the arrangement. He wants to meet regularly and take me with him on his travels, and that would suit me fine. I love travelling!

The tricky art of allowance

As I realized the arrangement really could come true with HottieSD, I started to panic about the allowance discussion. I know the formula, rent + bills + some extra, but what then. What about if he wants to see me twice a week? What about this and that... I know what sum would cover my living expences, I have read the blogs, searched the archives and still I'm stumped. Thankfully Lily helped me out again. All I can do carefully ask about his budget and go from there. I can't be too greedy as it might drive him away and I really would prefer a longterm arrangement. Once again, the chemistry has to be there, otherwise I couldn't be with him anyway. I'm not starving, so I don't need to be desperate for money.

So I did what I always do when in doubt, I take my notebook and write down a plan. Once a week = xxxx euros, twice a week = xxxx euros, and so on. This really cleared my head and I can confidently talk about money with the pots. And yes, I shredded the pages =)

Age does not matter

I am 38 and it isn't a bad thing in the sugar world. Quite a few men love more mature women, as I have found out to my own surprise. The stereotype SB is usually portrayed to be an innocent girl in her twenties, but not everyone fancy that, and good for me! I market myself quite openly as a stylish and elegant lady whom can be taken to any event. I dress reasonably classic, dresses, jackets and pumps, I love jewellery and luxurious handbags. I never leave the house without my Hermès. I've worked as an executive assistant and men love hearing it, as I describe how I can woo everyone with my radiant smile, impeccable manners and the ability to handle any tricky situation with aplomb.

HottieSD

So on February 25th I met my first potential-SD for lunch, let's call him HottieSD. He's 44, medium height, bald (shaven, not the natural version, heh) and works for an US company situated in my hometown and travels a lot. The second we saw each other, we just smiled and started talking. This can't be so easy?? We have a similar sense of humour, I teased him a bit to see how he reacts and he blushes ;) He was sorry he didn't bring his CV, but I promised to get his criminal records from the police (j/k). He suggested taking me to Denmark with him on the last week of March. Then we just stared at each others eyes and smile, and both comment that this can't be true.

I made it clear he's not gonna get into my knickers before we have discussed the arrangement and he agrees. He was leaving on a business trip next day, so we schedule the next meeting after he's back in town. He promises to e-mail me when he's settled in the hotel and I kiss him goodbye on the cheek. He blushes again. Gotta love that!

First ad and what happened then

I put up an ad on the site Lily had suggested. It consists mostly of ads from callgirls and escorts, but a well written and a bit different ad sure got some attention. I made clear I'm looking for a longterm, mutually beneficial relationship and not a romp in a hotel room. Needless to say, most of the answers were from johns wanting just that. Some men clearly understood what I was looking for, but were hesitant of the allowance part of the deal. Most of them poofed, as I need an allowance daddy, not a gift daddy. Gifts are nice, but I need to pay off a couple of debts first.

Getting to meet the potentials is tricky, most of them poof, if not because of the allowance, then just because. I just can't see the reason why on earth they are on a site like that looking for a mistress and then not want to meet one, even if they are satified with my pictures and the phone conversation has been lovely? Go figure. So I got maybe 20 replies and all but one poofed. Poof!

First steps

In January I set up a profile on a regular dating site along the lines of "Beautiful and stylish lady looking for a rich and loving husband". I got some good replies, but mostly married men wanted to meet a lovely girlfriend. So let's think again. Why not? I would get the best part of them without the dull everyday chores. I can keep my independence, but occasionally spend quality time with a witty and succesful man. But hey, what's in it for me? I'm not an escort, I couldn't just sell my body. Been there done that, not for me. I want something more. Companionship, friendship, adventure & spoiling.

So I stumbled on SeekingArrangement.com. The site is full of information on sugar relationships and the active members are wonderfully open to share their experiences. I couldn't have found a better place to educate myself and I got certain that this is it for me. Perfect!

On SA.com I found a fellow SB situated in my town, unbelievable! It took me some weeks to gather courage to e-mail her and I'm glad I did. I have gotten excellent advice on my musings, thank you Lily =)

Looking for love... or something else?

I have been single for couple of years and all the guys I have met are complete losers. They want nothing else but sex, most of them are scared to death of commitment and a real relationship. Then on the other hand there are guys who want to have kids and a family, not my cup of tea, either. So late last year I decided to take the faith in my own hands and find myself a rich and attentive husband, who wants to spoil me and make my life easier.

I live alone, so the mortage and the bills are killing me. I work fulltime, but the job is nothing but crap and gives no satisfaction whatsoever. I love expensive bags, shoes & accessories. I love fine dining and travelling. All that takes quite a strain on my finances, so hell, let's find a rich husband. Quite soon I realized it's a lot more difficult to accomplish. Those perfect princes are are very, very rare. And let's face it, I'm not in my twenties. And I probably couldn't handle a possessive man with 24/7 needs.

So what's a girl to do? Let's find a SugarDaddy.