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I have had interesting discussions about my experiment of a SB posing as an escort. Haha yeah, am I clever or what =D I don't know if it is a cultural thing, sugar baby/daddy -concept is quite unknown up here. And still it is exactly what they are looking for. They want the continuity, chemistry, getting to know you better and so on. They want to see once or twice a month for dinners, theatre, art exhibitions and so forth. They want to talk and cuddle, feel wanted. They send me their pictures to make sure I like them. In a way I understand them not wanting to pay in advance, there are not that many millionaires around here. They are just regular guys earning a bit more than the average joe.

Of course most of those who have sent me messages are looking for a fling. I'm still baffled why do these old married men think a woman would want to date them intentionally for nothing? Sure there are plenty of women wanting something on the side (so go to a bar to find those skanks, loser), but I try to use discreet codewords in my ads to make sure they understand I'm not one of those ladies. That's surprisingly difficult as the sites I use have blocked some words like support, upkeep, assistance.

In my reply to these potential clients (does that sound too harsh?), I have outlined quite specifically what I offer and what I expect. I need the chemistry, I'm not a professional, we need to feel the spark and the meetings must be as natural as with a regular girlfriend. I'm not coming to meet someone in a hotel room for an hour, I'm too classy for that, and I wish it to become long term relationship. And the money, I'm asking waaaaay more than an escort. If I can find 2-3 charming gentleman, who want to meet me once a month, I would make almost the same as a SB whose daddy might want to hook up every week. Not a bad situation in my opinion. Maybe a bit transactional, but I sure as hell am not selling myself short, do the math.

And the pot in Amsterdam. When I brought up the sugar, he got all surprised I had a business plan on mind, he thought covering the weekend trips was it. Umm, we met on SDFM.com, mister. I replied very politely reminding him about that fact and that he would make some regular woman from match.com very very happy. His answer? "Why are you so rude? I can get hookers easier than this, I'm not desperate, you will die a very bitter woman.". Oh well, all the best to you, too =D

thank you Butterfly for the title of this post =)