The tricky art of allowance

As I realized the arrangement really could come true with HottieSD, I started to panic about the allowance discussion. I know the formula, rent + bills + some extra, but what then. What about if he wants to see me twice a week? What about this and that... I know what sum would cover my living expences, I have read the blogs, searched the archives and still I'm stumped. Thankfully Lily helped me out again. All I can do carefully ask about his budget and go from there. I can't be too greedy as it might drive him away and I really would prefer a longterm arrangement. Once again, the chemistry has to be there, otherwise I couldn't be with him anyway. I'm not starving, so I don't need to be desperate for money.

So I did what I always do when in doubt, I take my notebook and write down a plan. Once a week = xxxx euros, twice a week = xxxx euros, and so on. This really cleared my head and I can confidently talk about money with the pots. And yes, I shredded the pages =)

First steps

In January I set up a profile on a regular dating site along the lines of "Beautiful and stylish lady looking for a rich and loving husband". I got some good replies, but mostly married men wanted to meet a lovely girlfriend. So let's think again. Why not? I would get the best part of them without the dull everyday chores. I can keep my independence, but occasionally spend quality time with a witty and succesful man. But hey, what's in it for me? I'm not an escort, I couldn't just sell my body. Been there done that, not for me. I want something more. Companionship, friendship, adventure & spoiling.

So I stumbled on SeekingArrangement.com. The site is full of information on sugar relationships and the active members are wonderfully open to share their experiences. I couldn't have found a better place to educate myself and I got certain that this is it for me. Perfect!

On SA.com I found a fellow SB situated in my town, unbelievable! It took me some weeks to gather courage to e-mail her and I'm glad I did. I have gotten excellent advice on my musings, thank you Lily =)