Age does not matter

I am 38 and it isn't a bad thing in the sugar world. Quite a few men love more mature women, as I have found out to my own surprise. The stereotype SB is usually portrayed to be an innocent girl in her twenties, but not everyone fancy that, and good for me! I market myself quite openly as a stylish and elegant lady whom can be taken to any event. I dress reasonably classic, dresses, jackets and pumps, I love jewellery and luxurious handbags. I never leave the house without my Hermès. I've worked as an executive assistant and men love hearing it, as I describe how I can woo everyone with my radiant smile, impeccable manners and the ability to handle any tricky situation with aplomb.

HottieSD

So on February 25th I met my first potential-SD for lunch, let's call him HottieSD. He's 44, medium height, bald (shaven, not the natural version, heh) and works for an US company situated in my hometown and travels a lot. The second we saw each other, we just smiled and started talking. This can't be so easy?? We have a similar sense of humour, I teased him a bit to see how he reacts and he blushes ;) He was sorry he didn't bring his CV, but I promised to get his criminal records from the police (j/k). He suggested taking me to Denmark with him on the last week of March. Then we just stared at each others eyes and smile, and both comment that this can't be true.

I made it clear he's not gonna get into my knickers before we have discussed the arrangement and he agrees. He was leaving on a business trip next day, so we schedule the next meeting after he's back in town. He promises to e-mail me when he's settled in the hotel and I kiss him goodbye on the cheek. He blushes again. Gotta love that!

First ad and what happened then

I put up an ad on the site Lily had suggested. It consists mostly of ads from callgirls and escorts, but a well written and a bit different ad sure got some attention. I made clear I'm looking for a longterm, mutually beneficial relationship and not a romp in a hotel room. Needless to say, most of the answers were from johns wanting just that. Some men clearly understood what I was looking for, but were hesitant of the allowance part of the deal. Most of them poofed, as I need an allowance daddy, not a gift daddy. Gifts are nice, but I need to pay off a couple of debts first.

Getting to meet the potentials is tricky, most of them poof, if not because of the allowance, then just because. I just can't see the reason why on earth they are on a site like that looking for a mistress and then not want to meet one, even if they are satified with my pictures and the phone conversation has been lovely? Go figure. So I got maybe 20 replies and all but one poofed. Poof!

First steps

In January I set up a profile on a regular dating site along the lines of "Beautiful and stylish lady looking for a rich and loving husband". I got some good replies, but mostly married men wanted to meet a lovely girlfriend. So let's think again. Why not? I would get the best part of them without the dull everyday chores. I can keep my independence, but occasionally spend quality time with a witty and succesful man. But hey, what's in it for me? I'm not an escort, I couldn't just sell my body. Been there done that, not for me. I want something more. Companionship, friendship, adventure & spoiling.

So I stumbled on SeekingArrangement.com. The site is full of information on sugar relationships and the active members are wonderfully open to share their experiences. I couldn't have found a better place to educate myself and I got certain that this is it for me. Perfect!

On SA.com I found a fellow SB situated in my town, unbelievable! It took me some weeks to gather courage to e-mail her and I'm glad I did. I have gotten excellent advice on my musings, thank you Lily =)

Looking for love... or something else?

I have been single for couple of years and all the guys I have met are complete losers. They want nothing else but sex, most of them are scared to death of commitment and a real relationship. Then on the other hand there are guys who want to have kids and a family, not my cup of tea, either. So late last year I decided to take the faith in my own hands and find myself a rich and attentive husband, who wants to spoil me and make my life easier.

I live alone, so the mortage and the bills are killing me. I work fulltime, but the job is nothing but crap and gives no satisfaction whatsoever. I love expensive bags, shoes & accessories. I love fine dining and travelling. All that takes quite a strain on my finances, so hell, let's find a rich husband. Quite soon I realized it's a lot more difficult to accomplish. Those perfect princes are are very, very rare. And let's face it, I'm not in my twenties. And I probably couldn't handle a possessive man with 24/7 needs.

So what's a girl to do? Let's find a SugarDaddy.