Oh why, thank you, ma'am

I'm all smiles. Yes The day has FINALLY arrived, I am in an arrangement! Daaamn that took long, though... Mr Gold is an amazing man, so attentive, so open and so easy to be with. The conversation just flows... Our date last night started with him handing out my allowance for November in full, a nice dinner and then more wine and flirting at his place. And the hottest, wettest make out session for a while =D Boy is he good with his tongue! I should give him an allowance for making me come and come and come and... oooh.

He travels quite a bit for pleasure, so I suspect there will be some of it in store for me, too. And as a good SD, he won't allow me to pay for anything when we are together, that's something he said already on our first date. Next date is in two weeks and as agreed, either he will give me shopping money or we go shopping together. Hmmm what do I really need... a new computer maybe?

Even if all this (and Mr Eccentric, grrrrrr him) goes nice and smooth, a girl must be vigilant. I still have 4-5 potentials with whom I'm scheduling first dates. They are all out of towners, so it takes a bit of planning. I seem to have found the right combination of sugar and money for the local potentials. Or is it the pheromones that are wafting into the air because of Mr E...?

What ever the reason, I have gotten completely different response to my search. Will keep you updated how it all developes. But right now I'm just super happy about Mr Gold! Have a wonderful weekend, my fellow sugars!

Oh do I dare to dream

I had the first really, really good, efficient and pleasant sugar date on Monday. I met a local potential SD who has had an arrangement before and what a wonderfully easy experience for me it was! He knew exactly what to say and reply to my questions, he made the allowance talk as comfortable for me as possible and he didn't make anything feel dirty or unpleasant. Talking about the money part was a breeze as opposed to the wannabe potentials I have met before. No need to explain it all from the beginning, wheww. And he loved me and I really liked him. And we're meeting again on Friday night and I'm taking my toothbrush along. Let's call him MrGold as he's blond. More to come, hopefully!

MrEccentric is still in the picture, he makes me so horny by just talking shit. Who knows what comes out of this, but I am going to see it through. Just because... I feel like flying.. floating on the sea with no horizon on sight... wanting to do cartwheels... I want to take the ends of a circle, step in and close it.

Bluer than velvet was the night, Softer than satin was the light

MrAccent came to see me, we had a wonderful dinner at one of the best restaurants in town, kissed a bit in his nice boutique hotel room and then I left. No sugar, no sex. And then he disappeared. Whatevs.

Then there is this man I probably haven't mentioned in the blog before, let's call him MrEccentric for now. We talked for quite a bit last summer and then I decided to let him go, but now he's back. He's in south of France on his yact at the moment and is feeling the itch to move on, it's getting cold in Europe. We haven't talked for 3 months but everything is the same. The chemistry, the feeling of knowing each other since the beginning of time, talking in metaphors, getting restless and talking of nothing on the phone for hours. His voice gets me wet.. haven't masturbated this much since.. never?

This whole thing reminds me of how I met my ex-boyfriend. We met online and for a reason just chatted online for maybe two months. The chemistry was amazing, it was like a drug. When we finally met, it was love at first sight, fireworks and abandonment of everything else. It lasted for 4 years until we both were burnt out on the love and passion. The sex was incredible till the last night we spent together, us both crying through sweaty panting climax as we knew it was the last one together.

So, I don't now.. meeting MrEccentric could be a disaster leaving me burnt, or it could be a mind blowing, life changing chance of... everything I have ever wanted. Isn't it funny how you become hesitant when you are offered the world and adventures you have always dreamt of?

PS Oh well, gotta confess, me and the ex met a couple of times after the break up just for sex...

Sentiment of the day

I'm seriously thinking about ordering this necklace.

Mr Accent is coming to meet me on Saturday next week, so I have a week to start feeling like a lady again and not a desperate ho. Thanks to all the potentials I've been talking to lately....

Accomplishments so far = nothing

Ok not really, I have met amazing people (mostly online), fine tuned my goals and wishes and kept my faith. September was grazy and busy, work was hectic and left me little time to spend time with real life friends. Some evenings were spent emailing/skyping/talking on the phone with potentials...

Right now I'm talking with 4 serious contenders (Mr Accent and Mr French still among them) and with 3 others emailing is still at an early stage. I have learned some patience, these guys just can't fly off on a short notice and luckily they are gentlemen and don't demand me traveling to meet them. I'd love that though, and probably will do that with couple of them, otherwise we'll never meet.

Mr Accent is already excited about house hunting with me. He's looking for a new house in London, preferably in Mayfair, so yes, sir, I'm excited as well. We talk on the phone several times a week plus some emails, we have so much in common... The plan is for him to come see me next weekend, keep your fingers crossed! Mr French gives me a nagging feeling something is amiss, so I won't put much effort on him. Mr Travel whom I mentioned in an earlier post, emails/texts me maybe once a week, at the moment he's in Asia. I have no idea does he travel for business or purely for fun, all he does is fun.. I'm tempted to scream oh come on, lets meet already for the first time and we'll finally see are we a match, a little detour to see me is not a problem for you! But I'll refrain myself, it will happen if it's meant to be.And then there is Mr Newbie, also from London. He contacted me on Facebook with his official profile, so he was easy to check out and google. He has never been a SD, but hopes to find a mature mistress to spoil and spend time enjoying concerts, theatre, fine dining and walks in the park (haha not really, but he really wants to spend quality time with his mistress). My location is not a problem and he's willing to compensate my time in a very generous way. Hopefully we'll talk more next week, and for him I'll probably fly to London in two weeks.

Oops what a long post and nothing really exciting in it. I'm hoping your sugar life is more fulfilling than mine. Now I'm off to enjoy the glorious autumn day!

From here to there and everywhere

The first real sugar date left me cold, but no worries. Signing in on a new SD site opened new doors for me. Ok they're British and they're looking for a girlfriend/wife, but I'm not getting any younger either. I sent about 6 messages to millionaires in London (income £+500K and net worth £+1M) and have been actively emailing with 3. Just got off the phone with one of them and waiting for another to call me.

Mr Accent was genuinely interested in me (oh how many times have I said that before..), we talked about life in general, travelling, our jobs and normal everyday stuff. We'll keep in touch and schedule a date for next week. In one of my emails I asked him what does he think of the fact that if we hit it off, I will become his live-in girlfriend and will not continue working. He answered that's exactly what he's looking for, hooray! I'm so ready for the 3-4 carat engagement ring =DMr French should call later today and with him I'm determined to arrange a date for this weekend, hopefully in London including some shopping. He lives in Regent's Park, loves to travel and enjoy the high life. He's looking for something more serious as well and as a bonus could teach me proper French. I can already envision the orange Hermès boxes coming my way....

The chase is addicting... I'm tempted to surf the sites again this evening, but I try not to... Anyone else have symptoms of a sugar search addiction?

Eeny meeny miny mo

The date with Mr Germany went ok. Nothing spectacular, he wanted to walk from his hotel to the restaurant. Ok nice, except the hotel was not in the city center. I made him take the subway. Should've known this is not going to be good. I showed him some sights on the way and during dinner we politely talked about travelling and the cities we have visited so far. Definitely no sparks flying and he got drunk after having half a bottle of wine? Seriously =D I'm not a drunk, but I do like my quality wine. And after dinner, more walking. Thank gawd I wasn't wearing my highest heels! I started to feel a bit exasperated and the final blow was him telling me about these great hotels deals he always gets on Priceline. Thank you, good night & take care.

After I got home a potential SD from London (income £+1M, net worth £+1M) called and things started to look more positive once again. He travels constantly and sometimes needs a lovely companion to share the experiences and some witty conversation. In his first email he had asked what would I want to do and I gave him 3 of my most exotic wishes for travel. Oh well, he has done them all =D Now he's checking the best place in Europe for us to meet and he himself noted that he will get me my own hotel room, first date is just for us to get know each other. Let's hope he delivers!

There are couple of other potentials as well, but I'll get back to them if need be, they need some gentle coaxing about the allowance in general... yeah, they're British ;D

Wow, he was quick...

I had e-mailed with this American man in Germany for couple of days, just exchanging the preliminary info, hobbies, likes etc. Then he suddenly says this is all so nice to chat online, but I would like to talk to you in person. Ok I think we'll talk on the phone later, but then the next day I have a message: "I'd like to take you to dinner next weekend, I'll be in your city on Friday". Ummmm okay. So now I have a sugar date on Saturday!

It's all nice and everything, I would learn a thing or two from him, but I'm not 100 % sure he's a SD for me. He has some not so normal characteristics, but seems really normal and easy to get along with nonetheless. I'm a bit worried I'm too materialistic and airhead for him =D Plus he's more of a travel daddy and I really would prefer an allowance daddy. But I'll keep an open mind, I would LOOOOVE to be able to travel all over the Europe, and that's his plan, to see and explore all the cities in Europe.

So, on Saturday we'll see if we have any chemistry! And if nothing else, he can tick off one city from his list.

Still alive and kicking with hints of sugar in the air

Well, not exactly kicking, but feeling optimistic (have I said that many times already and nothing ever materializes?). Oh well, it's summer, it's two weeks until my summer holiday (4 weeks of absolutely no plans), I got a big raise at work and I have 4 potentials lined up.

Met a 60 year old consultant last night for drinks. He's very charming and polite, but the question of sugar is still out in the open. He wants us to get to know each other better first (yeah right) and when we are sure this would be a long term affair, then maybe we can go shopping together. I'm afraid he thinks just buying me dinners and cooking for me at my place equals as sugar, so I might have to *next* him. Too bad as he really was fun to be with and he could be my mentor as well, as he works in a field that I'm involved. I'll probably have dinner with him the following week to have a serious talk.

Then there's this 36 year old businessman, who loves older women and has some sexual preferences that his wife won't tolerate. And it's nothing more than coming on my face (I actually like it), where do these women come from? We're meeting next week as he doesn't live in my city. That's a good thing as then we can meet at his hotel and not at my place. That's one thing I don't like about the local guys, they think it's a given that I host them and I'm a bit uncomfortable with that...

Tomorrow I'm meeting a CEO of a family owned company with net revenue close to 150 million euros (that's quite ok by local standards). He's looking for a wife and he sure as hell can afford one staying at home, as he actually owns the whole company! Yes, he's a grand-grandson of the founder.

And then the best one, a hottie 50something in Paris. I'm probably jinxing the whole thing, but I MIGHT be going to Paris tomorrow and he understands completely that I'm not having sex with him and want my own pre-paid hotel room. Oh the dream, again. He could teach me French, I would get to explore the city with a local guide and the allowance... 3000 euros + generous shopping for meetings twice a month. I'm just hoping he's as charming as he sounds on the phone and doesn't poof =) Keep your fingers crossed, please!

Oh yes and I have found the joy of sugar hunting IRL! Earlier this week I went out with a friend to this local bar very well known as the hunting place for the older folks ;) And oh boy was there sugar all over! Older foreign men in sharp suits! So we're going back next week and with sharpened nails. Beware the sugar starved lady! =D

Gardening and a fast food empire? Yes, please...

Just got home from a quick coffee date with the local potental, who is looking for a wife. Let's call him PastaPot, as I'm pretty sure I'll have more to tell about him in the future. He's 40something with a small pot belly and he owns one the largest fast food chains in my country. He doesn't travel that much to need a companion, he's not working 24/7 anymore and when I asked what duties would I have as his wife, he said "oh well, it would be nice to have someone to take long walks with, go to the gym, travel occasionally to somewhere warm and to take care of the large garden that is quite neglected now". Okay, that sounds reasonable =D

I felt very relaxed with him and he laughed at my jokes (always a good sign). We talked like old pals and even started planning how his company could use Facebook in marketing, love impressing the guys with my ideas. And we are meeting for dinner next week. I'm keeping my fingers crossed!

Local potentials & European negotiations

Work and other real life activities have taken most of my time, but I'm still searching for the one SD. 2500pot wants me to relocate to Paris, otherwise no allowance, just the living and traveling expences paid (he'd rent an apartment for us in Paris and would pay for my apartment in my home town, as well). I could do that, traveling between Paris and home, I would actually LOVE to be able to stay in Paris regularly, but IDK. The discussion with him has gotten a bit tedious, a little too much transactional for my taste. He has also already said "no more other boyfriends", ummm, wtf, a bit too early for that kind of comments? I'll probably let him poof in peace... SurprisePot has disappeared again after his Chinese trip, but I'm still hoping he might resurface as he warned work would be very hectic for the rest of May. Couple of London potentials have come and gone, not hoping anything from there...

And then there are two local potentials. The other one is most likely looking for a wife, so I need to thread lightly with him. If he's a gem, why not, but so far I don't have enough info on him to determine that. And then the jackpot, if we have the chemistry.

We exchanged e-mails in January and then he disappeared, only to come back last week. "Lost your e-mail address", yeah right, but I'll give him the benefit of a doubt. He's a businessman in his 50's, looking for a distraction for his dull everyday life, a travel companion to share experiences, and is willing to support me as a lady should be supported. No talk about euros yet, I'll save that for the first date. He wants to take care of my expences and to compensate for my time in a way that will keep me motivated, plus naturally all the champagne. Gotta love that subtle way of defining an arrangement. If our schedules permit, we'll meet on Friday for... ta-daa, some champagne.

Will keep you posted and hoping to get some real sugar stories to share soon =) I've been too lazy to comment on anyones blogs, but I do read them religiously. Luv'ya all!

It's summer!

I have found out the French guys perversions and I'm ok with them. Let's just say that we share similar interests. I'll call him 2500pot from now on, as he would give me 2500 euros on top of all my living expences, bills and traveling to him in Paris. "Just for you to save", he said, and I would be very happy with the total allowance. We were supposed to meet this weekend, but due to the little bit too hasty timetable we cancelled that. We've talked on the phone and exchanged more e-mails, we'll see where this leads. Can't wait to get to Paris and meet Sandie, too =)

Earlier this week I got a very nice surprise. A pot that I had thought had poofed, sent an e-mail apologizing for his disappearance, he had been to China and out there it's almost impossible to surf the Internet freely. He's very keen on talking more with me. He sounds like "a real SD", wanting to proceed with my pace to make me comfortable, he would come to see me for the first date etc. He's married of course, but refreshingly the arrangement wouldn't be a secret. "We have no secrets, she will be informed, not involved". Sneaking around extra carefully is a hassle and strains so much of ones energy, so they have beautifully honest approach that I appreciate. He travels constantly and we'll talk more next week, when he'll be back to the civilized world.

And now I'm off to do some shopping with my friend! I'm her personal shopper with my keen eye on colour and understanding her style. Have a wonderful weekend everyone!

Banker businessman millions billions gifts first class oh finally give me some of that

Banker from London poofed. What a surprise, but truth to be told, I'm quite disappointed as he seemed to be so nice, sincere and just my type. Oh well, live and learn. But if he gets back to me, I will be very happy about it as I already named him HermèsSD, wonder why ;D

Right now I'm talking with a French businessman about going to Paris for the weekend. He's married (quelle surprise), hopes to have me on call 24/7 just for him and offers a verrrry nice allowance, actually 1000 euros more than what I'd be moderately happy with. I love that, because I would be able to quit my day job that I HATE. All I have to do is to find out his secret perversions and intolerable habits, hah. Of course I'm not leaving without the regular safety precautions (plane tickets and hotel room paid for and confirmed, plus some spending money). Once again all I can say is let's see =)

What are your "basic demands" for a potential SD to make you feel safe enough to fly out to see him?

I should remember to take care of ME

I shouldn't be shopping, really, but yesterday I found myself trying on couple of dresses again. And oh my what lights they had in the fitting room. My derriere looked huge and dimpled =0 I need a full body exfoliation and moisturizing anti-age treatment! And a personal trainer to move my lazy ass!

One of the less important things I want to get done some day is Lasik or something similar to correct my vision. After that of course I need to have something done about the bags under my eyes, so little more laser *zap zap says laser*. And there are some fine wrinkles on my neck *zap zap*. I've never understood how some women cut themselves into unrecognizable barbies (think Heidi whatshername), but oh boy have I changed my mind about the less evasive treatments as the years go by. All that sunbathing when younger is now showing the effects...

Oh well. HermesSD-pot (the banker form London) is still coming this way and another interesting potential contacted me on SA.com. Happy times for this wannabe-SB =)

Slowly getting there... maybe

Rejection has become easy. Rejecting has become easy. I'm not letting any of that shadow the journey, even if it is really boring and tedious every now and then. I'm not going to let anything drag me down or force me to settle. I know what I have to give to my future SD.

Right now I'm waiting for one new potential to get back to me about a date in my home town. I'm keeping my fingers crossed, as he feels so right. He's a 50something banker from London. We have similar values, we share the same interests, his wishes for an arrangement are similar to mine, we can talk openly and are both a bit surprised about all of it. Let's hope he doesn't get cold feet. I already bought a new peacock green silk dress for the date =D

Where's the other end of the rainbow...?

The sugar search is on and I have nothing to say? This IS full time job and it's hard to find time for it with a real full time job. I've found two other potentials, but both discussions are going on so slowly and with no definite yes or no from them, frustrating. The first real pot had to go to the Middle East this week, so our possible date got postponed. He still initiates contact, so I'm semi-positive about that. Anyway I'm enjoying my time reading about other SBs adventures and successes, my time will come.

Has your sugar search been successful this week?

A possible date next week is in the works

So the everyday life goes on as usual.. I go to work, meet friends, do some excercise, get back home, browse SA.com and e-mail potentials. I have been e-mailing with that one potential for almost a week now. He lives in another continent, but travels to Europe if not every week, but several times a month anyway, both for business and pleasure.

He is a man with few words, but we have gotten to know each other quite well already. He will be in Europe for the next few weeks and I''ll probably meet him in London or in Amsterdam next week, May 1st. He will of course cover my airfare, hotel and provide a little extra for my time to come to see him, so far so good, and I have made it clear I'm not sleeping with him on the first date. Now it's just a waiting game to see if he'll go through with it or does he poof on the last minute. Wish me luck...

That is not a done deal yet, so I've continued e-mailing potentials on SA.com. I target only pots in locations that are easy for me to fly and/or who travel extensively and are at least 15 years my senior. It's slim pickings, girls... But no worries, there's someone for everyone and if nothing else, I'll learn to be patient =D

One week - one potential SD

I've been e-mailing with one potential for a couple of days now. He's 20 years my senior, makes 500K+ and has residences in several countries. He's looking for a GFE, travel companion, someone classy and lovely to spoil. He gave me his full name, a recent photo and a link to his company's site, so I feel quite confident he is who he claims to be. So far so good. He is not that eloquent with words, but I can live with that, I prefer straight talk to poetic bs.

I've asked a lot of questions, like what would be his idea of an ideal arrangement and what are his thoughts on my wishes that I have clearly stated in my profile. To that his answer was "Not a problem, everything is possible, if we have the chemistry". That could mean anything really, so tonight I need to be more blunt, as even if I would love to shop and dine on his dime when together, I still need the allowance to keep up the everyday life back at home.

And then there's this one obstacle that prevents us meeting in London in the near future, the cursed volcano erupting in Iceland. Does anyone else feel like a dinosaur? =)

MIA, but soon back on track

I've been down with the flu, and I mean really down. Had to go to the doctor yesterday and got some meds to ease my breathing and cure the cough. It's still going to take a couple of days to fully recover, I'm soooo tired... Between sleeping, coughing, blowing my nose, surfing the net and did I already say sleeping, I've had some clearer moments to think about my sugar situation.

I've decided to ditch the few potentials I have at the moment (including Smoothie), as I'm really not feeling the real desire to date them. And without the chemistry, it would be just like selling myself. No thank you.

Obviously I'm not very photogenic with my runny nose, so taking photos for the profiles on international sites has been postponed. And it doesn't matter, I've decided to whip myself back on track and to lose a couple of kilos during April. I don't know, maybe the general chatter about skinny young girls has gotten into me, but somehow I need to make the combination of my years, figure and style to work for my best and make myself feel like a million bucks. Not to mention it's summer soon, time for the sexy, skimpy dresses! I've also made appointments to hairdresser and teeth whitening.

When I resume my search, I'll be ready and literally glowing!

I have one guy from January's search still texting me every now and then. I have suggested lunches and other meetings, but he never responds. He texted me again yesterday, "How has your Easter been?". Me: "I've been ill for a week, feeling a bit down. A trip to Paris might cheer me up.". His answer: "Let's go then!". Oh well, I'm not crossing my fingers...

Comings and goings

Rejection is inevitable and I'm not going to let that effect my spirits. Onwards with the search!

The chat room is filled with johns. Discussions usually go like this after the initial conversation about our expectations and hopes for an arrangement
Me: So in what ways would you be willing to support your mistress?
Him: Take you to lovely dinners, spend quality time together at my summer house, give you massages etc.
Me: As I said before, I would be happier with some direct financial support, so I'd able to spend the time with you and not worry about my bills.
Him: But that's awkward, I would rather spoil you with gifts.
Me: Ok, thank you and good luck with your search!
Him: wtf?

But every now and then you might meet a potential SD. Met a new one again yesterday and we're meeting on Saturday at an art gallery to see an exhibition and then go to an early dinner after that. He is coming to town especially to meet me and he sounded like a true gentleman, but I don't expect much before I see him in person.

Otherwise nothing sugary to report. I don't remember who said on some other site that new SB-blogs about searching for a SD are popping up quite often. That's true and I love them, but would love to read the other side of the story, too.

Have any of you found good SD-blogs?

EDIT at 5 PM

Ok I was a bad, baaaad kitty today and chased pots online instead of getting some work done.. Two new potentials surfaced and already talked to one of them on the phone. He might be a bit too interested in kinky stuff. I have nothing against it, but he was so keen on it. Must try to talk about it in a way that makes him reveal his real agenda and then I can decide if I want to end things before they've even started.

AND Smoothie texts asking what's up. Ahem dude, YOU were supposed to get back to me during weekend and to set up a date for this week, I thought you had poofed. Hmmm, is he submissive and I need to call the shots? Let's find out ;)