Oh why, thank you, ma'am

I'm all smiles. Yes The day has FINALLY arrived, I am in an arrangement! Daaamn that took long, though... Mr Gold is an amazing man, so attentive, so open and so easy to be with. The conversation just flows... Our date last night started with him handing out my allowance for November in full, a nice dinner and then more wine and flirting at his place. And the hottest, wettest make out session for a while =D Boy is he good with his tongue! I should give him an allowance for making me come and come and come and... oooh.

He travels quite a bit for pleasure, so I suspect there will be some of it in store for me, too. And as a good SD, he won't allow me to pay for anything when we are together, that's something he said already on our first date. Next date is in two weeks and as agreed, either he will give me shopping money or we go shopping together. Hmmm what do I really need... a new computer maybe?

Even if all this (and Mr Eccentric, grrrrrr him) goes nice and smooth, a girl must be vigilant. I still have 4-5 potentials with whom I'm scheduling first dates. They are all out of towners, so it takes a bit of planning. I seem to have found the right combination of sugar and money for the local potentials. Or is it the pheromones that are wafting into the air because of Mr E...?

What ever the reason, I have gotten completely different response to my search. Will keep you updated how it all developes. But right now I'm just super happy about Mr Gold! Have a wonderful weekend, my fellow sugars!

New beginnings

It's been a while... Since the last post I've actively searched for sugar, enjoyed the summer, gotten tired of the search, sworn to quit sugarworld, got back on track, got a new local SB-friend, worked my ass out in the gym, and so on. There has been some nice potentials, but I don't know... Not gonna bore you with those sad stories =) Then I decided to try another way of approaching the locals. Yes, the notorious pay per play.

Someone on SA-blog just said that the British guys really don't grasp the idea of regular sugar and the same thing is a problem here, or at least I'm not succeeding. So why not make it sound like PPP, but make it sugar. I did a research on an escort site to check out their rates and then put up an ad on a local site in the lines of "do you visit the town regularly for business, why not get a girlfriend to spend some quality time with to make the trips more pleasurable with dinners, theatre and so on". And lo and behold, I have gotten tons of answers and they all want an ongoing relationship that can only be described as an arrangement! Tadaa, you can't change the players, so tweak your strategy to attract the target group, silly me for not doing that before.

So far there are no dates set, just couple of promising potentials that are very interested. I will definitely keep you posted how this pans out. But now I'm off to e-mail a potential SD in Amsterdam =) weekends in the South of France and Spain, oooh yes, please...

First ad and what happened then

I put up an ad on the site Lily had suggested. It consists mostly of ads from callgirls and escorts, but a well written and a bit different ad sure got some attention. I made clear I'm looking for a longterm, mutually beneficial relationship and not a romp in a hotel room. Needless to say, most of the answers were from johns wanting just that. Some men clearly understood what I was looking for, but were hesitant of the allowance part of the deal. Most of them poofed, as I need an allowance daddy, not a gift daddy. Gifts are nice, but I need to pay off a couple of debts first.

Getting to meet the potentials is tricky, most of them poof, if not because of the allowance, then just because. I just can't see the reason why on earth they are on a site like that looking for a mistress and then not want to meet one, even if they are satified with my pictures and the phone conversation has been lovely? Go figure. So I got maybe 20 replies and all but one poofed. Poof!

First steps

In January I set up a profile on a regular dating site along the lines of "Beautiful and stylish lady looking for a rich and loving husband". I got some good replies, but mostly married men wanted to meet a lovely girlfriend. So let's think again. Why not? I would get the best part of them without the dull everyday chores. I can keep my independence, but occasionally spend quality time with a witty and succesful man. But hey, what's in it for me? I'm not an escort, I couldn't just sell my body. Been there done that, not for me. I want something more. Companionship, friendship, adventure & spoiling.

So I stumbled on SeekingArrangement.com. The site is full of information on sugar relationships and the active members are wonderfully open to share their experiences. I couldn't have found a better place to educate myself and I got certain that this is it for me. Perfect!

On SA.com I found a fellow SB situated in my town, unbelievable! It took me some weeks to gather courage to e-mail her and I'm glad I did. I have gotten excellent advice on my musings, thank you Lily =)