Where's the other end of the rainbow...?

The sugar search is on and I have nothing to say? This IS full time job and it's hard to find time for it with a real full time job. I've found two other potentials, but both discussions are going on so slowly and with no definite yes or no from them, frustrating. The first real pot had to go to the Middle East this week, so our possible date got postponed. He still initiates contact, so I'm semi-positive about that. Anyway I'm enjoying my time reading about other SBs adventures and successes, my time will come.

Has your sugar search been successful this week?

A possible date next week is in the works

So the everyday life goes on as usual.. I go to work, meet friends, do some excercise, get back home, browse SA.com and e-mail potentials. I have been e-mailing with that one potential for almost a week now. He lives in another continent, but travels to Europe if not every week, but several times a month anyway, both for business and pleasure.

He is a man with few words, but we have gotten to know each other quite well already. He will be in Europe for the next few weeks and I''ll probably meet him in London or in Amsterdam next week, May 1st. He will of course cover my airfare, hotel and provide a little extra for my time to come to see him, so far so good, and I have made it clear I'm not sleeping with him on the first date. Now it's just a waiting game to see if he'll go through with it or does he poof on the last minute. Wish me luck...

That is not a done deal yet, so I've continued e-mailing potentials on SA.com. I target only pots in locations that are easy for me to fly and/or who travel extensively and are at least 15 years my senior. It's slim pickings, girls... But no worries, there's someone for everyone and if nothing else, I'll learn to be patient =D

One week - one potential SD

I've been e-mailing with one potential for a couple of days now. He's 20 years my senior, makes 500K+ and has residences in several countries. He's looking for a GFE, travel companion, someone classy and lovely to spoil. He gave me his full name, a recent photo and a link to his company's site, so I feel quite confident he is who he claims to be. So far so good. He is not that eloquent with words, but I can live with that, I prefer straight talk to poetic bs.

I've asked a lot of questions, like what would be his idea of an ideal arrangement and what are his thoughts on my wishes that I have clearly stated in my profile. To that his answer was "Not a problem, everything is possible, if we have the chemistry". That could mean anything really, so tonight I need to be more blunt, as even if I would love to shop and dine on his dime when together, I still need the allowance to keep up the everyday life back at home.

And then there's this one obstacle that prevents us meeting in London in the near future, the cursed volcano erupting in Iceland. Does anyone else feel like a dinosaur? =)

And we're on

I've had my profile up on SA.com for a few days now. It's a full time job browsing the profiles =) I've sent about 20 messages and marked about 30 gents as my favourite, my profile has been viewed appr 60 times and I have gotten one message, from a 30 year old making 150K. What a success. I know it will be difficult for me to find someone suitable (damn location), but I'll keep up the search.

On a happier note I went shopping with my friend today. It was a completely spur of the moment thing after our brunch and I wasn't supposed to buy anything, but I found a perfect beige safari style dress, a black sheer flowy knit tunic and a red summer dress, all on sale! Wohoo! Now my legs need some self tanner and I'm ready for spring.

How long did you have to search to find your SD?

I love shopping, but oh boy, am I impossible or what...

My motto is simply: Less is more, but only the best is good enough. With this in mind, I've been able to curb my shopping. It is so much more satisfying to buy fewer things, but things that I really want and have dreamt about.

I used to be almost a hoarder, I loved jumble sales, any sale. I had boxes after boxes of china, knick knacks, shoes, clothes with tags still on, you name it, I had it... But now for the last two years I have systematically gotten rid of most of the old stuff. I've held parties for my friends and they have taken home whatever they wanted. Some of the stuff I've sold on the local site equivalent to Ebay and then the rest got donated to charity. And good riddance, haven't missed any of it! It's an amazingly purifying experience.

I still do love shopping, but it's not compulsive anymore. I'm able to plan ahead and stick to my plan. I'm not buying anything just because it's nice to shop, but the new purchase needs to fit into my plan. Sadly this is not saving me any money, as I buy more expensive things now. How on earth did I become a Queen like this? =D

To turn this confessional into sugar talk, I'm afraid my very exact wishes would make it it impossible for a SD to spoil me with surprise gifts. I love shoes, but I know exactly what shoes I need. I love Hermès, but again, I need only certain items (and in certain colours..). I would love to build a lovely collection of jewellery, but I'm very specific what pieces I would wear. To draw you a picture; the last thing I have bought (apart from groceries, necessary cosmetics and tights etc) is a pair of Tod's flats in February. Yeap, you read it right, February.

In other words, I'm not starting from a scratch on this path of luxuries, I already have beautiful things, so would my quite refined wishlist be too much for a SD? I don't want to come across as too demanding, I just don't need anything extra to clutter my life and closets.

How have you resolved the question about gifts and your wishes with your SD/potential?

Dreams and nightmares

Ok, it's time to find a man. Had a dream last night, a verrry vivid dream about having sex with my a**hole ex-boyfriend. I admit, I haven't had sex for a looooooooooong time. But no more casual sex for me, been there etc., I won't do that anymore. I need to speed up the search for The SD. Luckily my horniness makes me especially charming and flirty ;)

The timing is probably a bit too comical to announce that I set up a new "public" e-mail address, as quite a few gentlemen have sent me friend requests on Facebook and I have ignored them, because I wish to keep FB a playground between SB-colleagues. adrianesugarbaby at gmail dot com

Suggestions for new blog posts and questions are also welcome!

Otherwise still nothing sugary to report, unfortunately...

Beauty is only skin deep

I'm still trapped at home. Went to see my regular doctor in the morning and finally got a diagnosis, proper meds AND sick leave for the rest of the week. Hopefully I'm feeling better soon, so I can take some pictures. And that got me thinking, once again...

What kind of pictures? I'd prefer very simple and stylish portrait like pics, something that represents me as truthfully as possible, meaning I'd be in a dress & heels. The two pics below show a couple of outfits a SD would actually see on a date.But would that be too boring on a profile, not tempting enough? Is showing skin the only thing that attracts men? Would that tempt the wrong kind of men? I am a lady after all.. I've never dressed obviously sexy or revealing, I like to hint and tease, so semi-nude pics could make me uncomfortable (I'm not saying being in my underwear makes me uncomfortable, oh no, that's another story..).

What do you think? Are pics of a SB in sexy lingerie a MUST?

MIA, but soon back on track

I've been down with the flu, and I mean really down. Had to go to the doctor yesterday and got some meds to ease my breathing and cure the cough. It's still going to take a couple of days to fully recover, I'm soooo tired... Between sleeping, coughing, blowing my nose, surfing the net and did I already say sleeping, I've had some clearer moments to think about my sugar situation.

I've decided to ditch the few potentials I have at the moment (including Smoothie), as I'm really not feeling the real desire to date them. And without the chemistry, it would be just like selling myself. No thank you.

Obviously I'm not very photogenic with my runny nose, so taking photos for the profiles on international sites has been postponed. And it doesn't matter, I've decided to whip myself back on track and to lose a couple of kilos during April. I don't know, maybe the general chatter about skinny young girls has gotten into me, but somehow I need to make the combination of my years, figure and style to work for my best and make myself feel like a million bucks. Not to mention it's summer soon, time for the sexy, skimpy dresses! I've also made appointments to hairdresser and teeth whitening.

When I resume my search, I'll be ready and literally glowing!

I have one guy from January's search still texting me every now and then. I have suggested lunches and other meetings, but he never responds. He texted me again yesterday, "How has your Easter been?". Me: "I've been ill for a week, feeling a bit down. A trip to Paris might cheer me up.". His answer: "Let's go then!". Oh well, I'm not crossing my fingers...