Oh the never ending needs

With the goal on my mind (the debt, the debt..), I still make wishlists in my mind. I love lists and have countless lists and plans in my notebook, so why not show one of them to you.

The needs of this wannabe SB
- a new bed: the old one is too old and squeeky
- lamps and area rugs to my apartment: I shouldn't ignore my surroundings even if I hate the place
- gym membership: haven't gone to the gym for ages, so now is the time to rekindle this love, maybe I'll get membership to one of the VIP gyms in town
- dentist appointment: I really need to check my teeth and preferably have them whitened
- digital camera to take with me on my numerous trips with my SD ;)
- new mobile phone: I need to be available in style, right
- sunglasses with prescription lenses

Let's talk about the shoes a bit later =)

Smoothie decided to poof after our first meet yesterday. Or who knows did he poof or not, but later when I tried calling at the time we agreed on, his cell phone was off. And now he's sending texts like ";)". One thing that irked me was him insisting a test drive before the arrangement. He would have paid for my time, but that would have been too "escorty" to my liking. And his breath smelled bad, he really should see a dentist...

TallBlond has probably poofed, not a word since my latest message confirming my wish to meet him again, too.

Hottie has disappeared, as well. This disappoints me the most, I really thought we had a connection, but he himself maybe got fed up with his own timetables constantly changing and having to postpone our second meet time after time. If he resurfaces, I'll greet him warmly and with open arms (almost said thighs, but ahem)...

But all is well in this sugar home, I'm on my way to meet a new potential, he's quite handsome, divorced and sounded very charming on the phone. I'll report about that later.

What is the most urgent/needed materialistic thing on your list?

I have an attitude?

I had e-mailed with one busy businessman for a couple of days and suggested lunch on Monday or Tuesday. He then asks what about today.

Me: Today's good, what about This Location (between us, easy to reach for both of us)?
Him: So you don't understand my wish for secrecy? Let me pick you up from your work.
Me: Of course I do and will do anything to ensure it, but I'd rather see at a cafe. I don't feel comfortable getting into a stranger's car.
Him: But I'm not a stranger, come on, let's go for a ride and talk.
Me: I'm sorry but I wish to see you in a public place, and if we cannot do that at all, it kinda baffles me how we could have an arrangement in the first place, you know I'm not an escort.
Him: Well I'm not asking you for a handjob, though that would be nice, of course.
Me: I would appreciate you understanding we're meeting for the first time.
Him: Well come to This Place (near his office, where it would take me an hour to get) then and we'll talk in the parked car.
Me: Maybe we should end this conversation now, as I'm not a callgirl. Have a nice weekend & good luck to your search!
Him: Thanks a lot, what a f**ng attitude is that for a hooker?
Me: *DELETE*

On more positive note, TallBlondSD sent a message and asked about my agenda for next week, he'd been very busy and out of town and apologized for a delayed reply. Yayyy =)

Perfect match SD

We all probably have an idea of a perfect SD in our heads. I've had some stupid expectations about men when younger, but nowadays I'm not that black and white anymore. The looks are not that important anymore (even though would make me weak at the knees, sure). Compatibility and similar sense of humour are way more important, but I do admit sometimes it's difficult to see behind the physical side.

I've been on too many dates that are pure agony from the second you meet. No chemistry = no nothing. I admit being a bit shallow and materialistic, so I easily condemn a person because of his style of clothes, haircut, unkempt nails etc. But now with a goal in mind, I've been a lot more open to differences without compromising anything of real importance, of course, and the chemistry is still the most important thing. Just like regular dating, you just know who's right for you.

TallBlondSD hasn't replied to my thank you note. HottieSD just sent a note saying how sorry he is that our second meeting gets postponed time after time. Next week he'll be away somewhere again, but on Friday he might be able to sneak out for drinks. Let's hope so. OlderGentSD and SF SD haven't returned my e-mails, but they're both on business trips, so I'm not going to say they've poofed (yet).

This spring will be sugary, I'm sure of it =)

Lunch with TallBlondSD

Just wow. It was so worth the wait... He was just as amazing and polite as I imagined, if not even more so. Very handsome and distinguised with a charming smile. I was greeted with cheek kisses and got his business card, and the conversation was light and flowing from the beginning. We talked about our hopes and interests, he talked very openly about his businesses. And now I understand what a mentor really means. He fits the bill perfectly. Our expectations for an arrangement were similar, basically he needs a special someone with whom to learn how to relax, talk about everything under the sun and someone to feel passionate about.

Before departing, he expressed his wish to get to know me better and to talk how to proceed, so we'll set up a date for later this week or early next week. He definitely left me shaken and stirred. And waiting for more... Just wow.

Poof Poofie Poof and TallBlondSD

I renewed my ad on the site, because the pots are just disappearing as quickly as they come and I can't count on HottieSD, even though how interested he is. But once again only poof-daddies emerge. I send e-mails here and there, everyone's interested, but then not one promise materializes.

One pot originating from Januarys ad on the regular dating site still keeps in contact. He's 51 and a CEO of his own consulting company. He's been super busy with business trips and then he was off to a skiing holiday with his kids. But when he got back in town, he himself contacted me to schedule a lunch. I was very excited as we had gotten to know each other quite well and share a lot of same interests. But then the day before our lunch he cancels!

He's having second thoughts as he "can't promise enough of his time, as he has been living for his work and the kids for so long, he's not sure he is able to commit to me as well as I would deserve". What a wonderful thought, but I'm not looking for a husband! So I write him a soothing e-mail explaining how everything would be on his terms and according to his timetables. I won't need him constantly, I would just love to make him feel happy and wanted and the moments we would share, would be full of stressfree fun and smiles. Happily he saw the light and now we are meeting next week for lunch. Can't wait!