Gardening and a fast food empire? Yes, please...

Just got home from a quick coffee date with the local potental, who is looking for a wife. Let's call him PastaPot, as I'm pretty sure I'll have more to tell about him in the future. He's 40something with a small pot belly and he owns one the largest fast food chains in my country. He doesn't travel that much to need a companion, he's not working 24/7 anymore and when I asked what duties would I have as his wife, he said "oh well, it would be nice to have someone to take long walks with, go to the gym, travel occasionally to somewhere warm and to take care of the large garden that is quite neglected now". Okay, that sounds reasonable =D

I felt very relaxed with him and he laughed at my jokes (always a good sign). We talked like old pals and even started planning how his company could use Facebook in marketing, love impressing the guys with my ideas. And we are meeting for dinner next week. I'm keeping my fingers crossed!

Oh for crying out loud

All I can do is laugh, really. 2500pot got the boot, he has completely misunderstood all my mails and phone conversations about the allowance I'm looking for. He actually thought I would travel back and forth to Paris to see him EVERY weekend just because he would rent the apartment there and pay for my flights. Ummmm, yes, you read it right, just the flights basically. No compensation for my time, gifts etc. My English is NOT that bad, buddy, and you're not that attractive to get my attention for nothing. *NEXT*

The local "jackpot" wanted to meet for champagne & strawberries in a hotel room. Ummmmm, yeah right. After my polite e-mail that I'm not meeting anyone in a hotel room for the first time, but we may still meet somewhere public: poof. What is it with thee guys??? I'm a goddamn honest, sincere, beautiful and intelligent, and they treat me like a whore? Aaargh. I'm off to down a glass a champagne by myself, thank you very much!

Have a better Friday everyone! =)

Local potentials & European negotiations

Work and other real life activities have taken most of my time, but I'm still searching for the one SD. 2500pot wants me to relocate to Paris, otherwise no allowance, just the living and traveling expences paid (he'd rent an apartment for us in Paris and would pay for my apartment in my home town, as well). I could do that, traveling between Paris and home, I would actually LOVE to be able to stay in Paris regularly, but IDK. The discussion with him has gotten a bit tedious, a little too much transactional for my taste. He has also already said "no more other boyfriends", ummm, wtf, a bit too early for that kind of comments? I'll probably let him poof in peace... SurprisePot has disappeared again after his Chinese trip, but I'm still hoping he might resurface as he warned work would be very hectic for the rest of May. Couple of London potentials have come and gone, not hoping anything from there...

And then there are two local potentials. The other one is most likely looking for a wife, so I need to thread lightly with him. If he's a gem, why not, but so far I don't have enough info on him to determine that. And then the jackpot, if we have the chemistry.

We exchanged e-mails in January and then he disappeared, only to come back last week. "Lost your e-mail address", yeah right, but I'll give him the benefit of a doubt. He's a businessman in his 50's, looking for a distraction for his dull everyday life, a travel companion to share experiences, and is willing to support me as a lady should be supported. No talk about euros yet, I'll save that for the first date. He wants to take care of my expences and to compensate for my time in a way that will keep me motivated, plus naturally all the champagne. Gotta love that subtle way of defining an arrangement. If our schedules permit, we'll meet on Friday for... ta-daa, some champagne.

Will keep you posted and hoping to get some real sugar stories to share soon =) I've been too lazy to comment on anyones blogs, but I do read them religiously. Luv'ya all!

It's summer!

I have found out the French guys perversions and I'm ok with them. Let's just say that we share similar interests. I'll call him 2500pot from now on, as he would give me 2500 euros on top of all my living expences, bills and traveling to him in Paris. "Just for you to save", he said, and I would be very happy with the total allowance. We were supposed to meet this weekend, but due to the little bit too hasty timetable we cancelled that. We've talked on the phone and exchanged more e-mails, we'll see where this leads. Can't wait to get to Paris and meet Sandie, too =)

Earlier this week I got a very nice surprise. A pot that I had thought had poofed, sent an e-mail apologizing for his disappearance, he had been to China and out there it's almost impossible to surf the Internet freely. He's very keen on talking more with me. He sounds like "a real SD", wanting to proceed with my pace to make me comfortable, he would come to see me for the first date etc. He's married of course, but refreshingly the arrangement wouldn't be a secret. "We have no secrets, she will be informed, not involved". Sneaking around extra carefully is a hassle and strains so much of ones energy, so they have beautifully honest approach that I appreciate. He travels constantly and we'll talk more next week, when he'll be back to the civilized world.

And now I'm off to do some shopping with my friend! I'm her personal shopper with my keen eye on colour and understanding her style. Have a wonderful weekend everyone!

Banker businessman millions billions gifts first class oh finally give me some of that

Banker from London poofed. What a surprise, but truth to be told, I'm quite disappointed as he seemed to be so nice, sincere and just my type. Oh well, live and learn. But if he gets back to me, I will be very happy about it as I already named him HermèsSD, wonder why ;D

Right now I'm talking with a French businessman about going to Paris for the weekend. He's married (quelle surprise), hopes to have me on call 24/7 just for him and offers a verrrry nice allowance, actually 1000 euros more than what I'd be moderately happy with. I love that, because I would be able to quit my day job that I HATE. All I have to do is to find out his secret perversions and intolerable habits, hah. Of course I'm not leaving without the regular safety precautions (plane tickets and hotel room paid for and confirmed, plus some spending money). Once again all I can say is let's see =)

What are your "basic demands" for a potential SD to make you feel safe enough to fly out to see him?

I should remember to take care of ME

I shouldn't be shopping, really, but yesterday I found myself trying on couple of dresses again. And oh my what lights they had in the fitting room. My derriere looked huge and dimpled =0 I need a full body exfoliation and moisturizing anti-age treatment! And a personal trainer to move my lazy ass!

One of the less important things I want to get done some day is Lasik or something similar to correct my vision. After that of course I need to have something done about the bags under my eyes, so little more laser *zap zap says laser*. And there are some fine wrinkles on my neck *zap zap*. I've never understood how some women cut themselves into unrecognizable barbies (think Heidi whatshername), but oh boy have I changed my mind about the less evasive treatments as the years go by. All that sunbathing when younger is now showing the effects...

Oh well. HermesSD-pot (the banker form London) is still coming this way and another interesting potential contacted me on SA.com. Happy times for this wannabe-SB =)

Slowly getting there... maybe

Rejection has become easy. Rejecting has become easy. I'm not letting any of that shadow the journey, even if it is really boring and tedious every now and then. I'm not going to let anything drag me down or force me to settle. I know what I have to give to my future SD.

Right now I'm waiting for one new potential to get back to me about a date in my home town. I'm keeping my fingers crossed, as he feels so right. He's a 50something banker from London. We have similar values, we share the same interests, his wishes for an arrangement are similar to mine, we can talk openly and are both a bit surprised about all of it. Let's hope he doesn't get cold feet. I already bought a new peacock green silk dress for the date =D

Where's the other end of the rainbow...?

The sugar search is on and I have nothing to say? This IS full time job and it's hard to find time for it with a real full time job. I've found two other potentials, but both discussions are going on so slowly and with no definite yes or no from them, frustrating. The first real pot had to go to the Middle East this week, so our possible date got postponed. He still initiates contact, so I'm semi-positive about that. Anyway I'm enjoying my time reading about other SBs adventures and successes, my time will come.

Has your sugar search been successful this week?

A possible date next week is in the works

So the everyday life goes on as usual.. I go to work, meet friends, do some excercise, get back home, browse SA.com and e-mail potentials. I have been e-mailing with that one potential for almost a week now. He lives in another continent, but travels to Europe if not every week, but several times a month anyway, both for business and pleasure.

He is a man with few words, but we have gotten to know each other quite well already. He will be in Europe for the next few weeks and I''ll probably meet him in London or in Amsterdam next week, May 1st. He will of course cover my airfare, hotel and provide a little extra for my time to come to see him, so far so good, and I have made it clear I'm not sleeping with him on the first date. Now it's just a waiting game to see if he'll go through with it or does he poof on the last minute. Wish me luck...

That is not a done deal yet, so I've continued e-mailing potentials on SA.com. I target only pots in locations that are easy for me to fly and/or who travel extensively and are at least 15 years my senior. It's slim pickings, girls... But no worries, there's someone for everyone and if nothing else, I'll learn to be patient =D

One week - one potential SD

I've been e-mailing with one potential for a couple of days now. He's 20 years my senior, makes 500K+ and has residences in several countries. He's looking for a GFE, travel companion, someone classy and lovely to spoil. He gave me his full name, a recent photo and a link to his company's site, so I feel quite confident he is who he claims to be. So far so good. He is not that eloquent with words, but I can live with that, I prefer straight talk to poetic bs.

I've asked a lot of questions, like what would be his idea of an ideal arrangement and what are his thoughts on my wishes that I have clearly stated in my profile. To that his answer was "Not a problem, everything is possible, if we have the chemistry". That could mean anything really, so tonight I need to be more blunt, as even if I would love to shop and dine on his dime when together, I still need the allowance to keep up the everyday life back at home.

And then there's this one obstacle that prevents us meeting in London in the near future, the cursed volcano erupting in Iceland. Does anyone else feel like a dinosaur? =)

And we're on

I've had my profile up on SA.com for a few days now. It's a full time job browsing the profiles =) I've sent about 20 messages and marked about 30 gents as my favourite, my profile has been viewed appr 60 times and I have gotten one message, from a 30 year old making 150K. What a success. I know it will be difficult for me to find someone suitable (damn location), but I'll keep up the search.

On a happier note I went shopping with my friend today. It was a completely spur of the moment thing after our brunch and I wasn't supposed to buy anything, but I found a perfect beige safari style dress, a black sheer flowy knit tunic and a red summer dress, all on sale! Wohoo! Now my legs need some self tanner and I'm ready for spring.

How long did you have to search to find your SD?

I love shopping, but oh boy, am I impossible or what...

My motto is simply: Less is more, but only the best is good enough. With this in mind, I've been able to curb my shopping. It is so much more satisfying to buy fewer things, but things that I really want and have dreamt about.

I used to be almost a hoarder, I loved jumble sales, any sale. I had boxes after boxes of china, knick knacks, shoes, clothes with tags still on, you name it, I had it... But now for the last two years I have systematically gotten rid of most of the old stuff. I've held parties for my friends and they have taken home whatever they wanted. Some of the stuff I've sold on the local site equivalent to Ebay and then the rest got donated to charity. And good riddance, haven't missed any of it! It's an amazingly purifying experience.

I still do love shopping, but it's not compulsive anymore. I'm able to plan ahead and stick to my plan. I'm not buying anything just because it's nice to shop, but the new purchase needs to fit into my plan. Sadly this is not saving me any money, as I buy more expensive things now. How on earth did I become a Queen like this? =D

To turn this confessional into sugar talk, I'm afraid my very exact wishes would make it it impossible for a SD to spoil me with surprise gifts. I love shoes, but I know exactly what shoes I need. I love Hermès, but again, I need only certain items (and in certain colours..). I would love to build a lovely collection of jewellery, but I'm very specific what pieces I would wear. To draw you a picture; the last thing I have bought (apart from groceries, necessary cosmetics and tights etc) is a pair of Tod's flats in February. Yeap, you read it right, February.

In other words, I'm not starting from a scratch on this path of luxuries, I already have beautiful things, so would my quite refined wishlist be too much for a SD? I don't want to come across as too demanding, I just don't need anything extra to clutter my life and closets.

How have you resolved the question about gifts and your wishes with your SD/potential?

Dreams and nightmares

Ok, it's time to find a man. Had a dream last night, a verrry vivid dream about having sex with my a**hole ex-boyfriend. I admit, I haven't had sex for a looooooooooong time. But no more casual sex for me, been there etc., I won't do that anymore. I need to speed up the search for The SD. Luckily my horniness makes me especially charming and flirty ;)

The timing is probably a bit too comical to announce that I set up a new "public" e-mail address, as quite a few gentlemen have sent me friend requests on Facebook and I have ignored them, because I wish to keep FB a playground between SB-colleagues. adrianesugarbaby at gmail dot com

Suggestions for new blog posts and questions are also welcome!

Otherwise still nothing sugary to report, unfortunately...

Beauty is only skin deep

I'm still trapped at home. Went to see my regular doctor in the morning and finally got a diagnosis, proper meds AND sick leave for the rest of the week. Hopefully I'm feeling better soon, so I can take some pictures. And that got me thinking, once again...

What kind of pictures? I'd prefer very simple and stylish portrait like pics, something that represents me as truthfully as possible, meaning I'd be in a dress & heels. The two pics below show a couple of outfits a SD would actually see on a date.But would that be too boring on a profile, not tempting enough? Is showing skin the only thing that attracts men? Would that tempt the wrong kind of men? I am a lady after all.. I've never dressed obviously sexy or revealing, I like to hint and tease, so semi-nude pics could make me uncomfortable (I'm not saying being in my underwear makes me uncomfortable, oh no, that's another story..).

What do you think? Are pics of a SB in sexy lingerie a MUST?

MIA, but soon back on track

I've been down with the flu, and I mean really down. Had to go to the doctor yesterday and got some meds to ease my breathing and cure the cough. It's still going to take a couple of days to fully recover, I'm soooo tired... Between sleeping, coughing, blowing my nose, surfing the net and did I already say sleeping, I've had some clearer moments to think about my sugar situation.

I've decided to ditch the few potentials I have at the moment (including Smoothie), as I'm really not feeling the real desire to date them. And without the chemistry, it would be just like selling myself. No thank you.

Obviously I'm not very photogenic with my runny nose, so taking photos for the profiles on international sites has been postponed. And it doesn't matter, I've decided to whip myself back on track and to lose a couple of kilos during April. I don't know, maybe the general chatter about skinny young girls has gotten into me, but somehow I need to make the combination of my years, figure and style to work for my best and make myself feel like a million bucks. Not to mention it's summer soon, time for the sexy, skimpy dresses! I've also made appointments to hairdresser and teeth whitening.

When I resume my search, I'll be ready and literally glowing!

I have one guy from January's search still texting me every now and then. I have suggested lunches and other meetings, but he never responds. He texted me again yesterday, "How has your Easter been?". Me: "I've been ill for a week, feeling a bit down. A trip to Paris might cheer me up.". His answer: "Let's go then!". Oh well, I'm not crossing my fingers...

Comings and goings

Rejection is inevitable and I'm not going to let that effect my spirits. Onwards with the search!

The chat room is filled with johns. Discussions usually go like this after the initial conversation about our expectations and hopes for an arrangement
Me: So in what ways would you be willing to support your mistress?
Him: Take you to lovely dinners, spend quality time together at my summer house, give you massages etc.
Me: As I said before, I would be happier with some direct financial support, so I'd able to spend the time with you and not worry about my bills.
Him: But that's awkward, I would rather spoil you with gifts.
Me: Ok, thank you and good luck with your search!
Him: wtf?

But every now and then you might meet a potential SD. Met a new one again yesterday and we're meeting on Saturday at an art gallery to see an exhibition and then go to an early dinner after that. He is coming to town especially to meet me and he sounded like a true gentleman, but I don't expect much before I see him in person.

Otherwise nothing sugary to report. I don't remember who said on some other site that new SB-blogs about searching for a SD are popping up quite often. That's true and I love them, but would love to read the other side of the story, too.

Have any of you found good SD-blogs?

EDIT at 5 PM

Ok I was a bad, baaaad kitty today and chased pots online instead of getting some work done.. Two new potentials surfaced and already talked to one of them on the phone. He might be a bit too interested in kinky stuff. I have nothing against it, but he was so keen on it. Must try to talk about it in a way that makes him reveal his real agenda and then I can decide if I want to end things before they've even started.

AND Smoothie texts asking what's up. Ahem dude, YOU were supposed to get back to me during weekend and to set up a date for this week, I thought you had poofed. Hmmm, is he submissive and I need to call the shots? Let's find out ;)

Frustration is in the air

I'm back from the ski resort with aching thighs and bloated body. Oh the amount of food and drink was soooooooo over the top. During the 3 days I skied like 3 hours and the rest of the time was spent in different styles of after ski. With a glass in my hand. April is so going to be no alcohol and only veggies -month. The potential was unable to meet me there, he was too busy with his own guests. And both Smoothie and Hottie have disappeared despite the promised dates this week.

BUT one pot I met yesterday in a chat room called me exactly at noon just as he promised. Good sign! He sounded very nice and we hit it off immediately. We'll meet for lunch on Wednesday, so let's keep fingers crossed! Maybe my frustration is shortlived and this neverending winter ends with some sugar in my direction...

To be or not to be... on SA.com

I don't have a profile on SA.com yet, as I've searched for sugar in my own country. Ok my search has taken only about 2 months, but I'm already getting a bit impatient. I have a couple of serious potentials lined up, but nothing seems to materialize. One of my goals is to see the world, so why not broaden my horizons and set up the profile anyway. There's nothing to lose.

And ta-daa, the questions arise. I feel the need to use completely different alias than this blog persona. I haven't written anything too serious here, but still it would bother me knowing they know, ykwim. And it wouldn't be fun at all if I couldn't write openly about the adventures to you =)

Then on the other hand on a chat forum couple of experienced SD's were quite open about the fact that me being in Europe and a first timer, is a big no no to some SD's. Too much to teach, too far away and what not. I could argue that my age has given me a little bit of perspective and I'm definitely not naive, but the distance cannot be denied. So I better find an European SD, as I could be whisked away anywhere in Europe in 2-3 hours. Not the end of the world really?

So now I'm off to think about a new name, the title to the profile, what kind of a man I'm looking for and what kind of photos to take. Any tips are welcome!

Have you been rejected due to a long distance?

Ooops, I'm alive!

Sorry about the blog silence, been busy with work and then I got myself an iPhone and that's one addictive little toy! I've played with it for two evenings now and my eyes are bleeding...

But one mini-goal is in the making, I uploaded French lesson podcasts on it and now I can start brushing up my French! I studied it at school some decades ago (hah) and decided now it's time to learn it better, as I love Paris and travel there a couple of times year, so isn't it a bit rude not to speak their language. To my own surprise I understood quite well the first podcast! Now I need a French or Canadian SD ;)

Tomorrow I'm off to a ski resort with some business partners. I hate snow, I hate skiing, so the weekend will be filled with after ski activities. Wish me luck! If they make me ski, I'll promise to take a picture =D

What a change of mind

SmoothieSD cancelled our next week's meeting as he's off to an unexpected business trip. But he definitely wants to meet as soon as possible, so we'll set up a new date on Easter week. And this gets more curious every time we talk on the phone. First he insisted on me being exclusive. Then it was ok if I have another SD, but he wants me to be honest and let him know. And now, now he wants me to have another SD, so I could tell him everything we do together. Suits me fine, I love a little bit of dirty talking...

What unusual requests have you encountered?